I never like confrontation

As I have mentioned previously, I live in a block of units and my common wall neighbour is from India.
For the previous 6 months he has been playing the drums. The kind that are played with the hands. Tabla.
This is very annoying as he plays them for at least 2 hours at night, sometimes 3 hours.
Tonight I am asleep at 9.30, I rise for work at 5am. He starts playing the drums and wakes me up.
I finally said to myself, "This is not on" so I went and knocked on his door, he did not hear me so I bang on his window.
He comes to the door and I say that I have put up with his nightly drumming for 6 months but I have had enough.
(Condensed version) - "You live in a block of units surrounded by neighbours. You never hear anything from them. Show some respect for your neighbours"
He said, "I understand, sorry, sorry, sorry."
I go back to bed and relate my story here.

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

Well hopefully he learned. I have “shared” my music with neighbors after they did the same for me and our other neighbors in the 8-unit apartment building. If they like rock music they probably aren’t going to appreciate Classical music if it’s cranked up at 8 or 9 a.m.

Gusman · 61-69, M

@cherokeepatti I done that myself once.
Young surfer guys next to me in a block of units. Partying all night.
Once I turned the radio on to a classical music channel at about 9am, turned it up loud and I went out for the day.
I eventually had them evicted because they were simply out of control with the partying, drugs etc.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Gusman I was kept awake all night by an upstairs neighbor with their noises. Waited till they went to sleep about 8 and I started up with my noises. First it was the wet-vac, I would turn it on in the bedroom (theirs was right above mine) and let it run for about 5 minutes, the sound was so loud it echoed off of the walls. Then turn it off a few minutes and repeat the process. Made noises using my WebTV going to sites that had a variety of weird noises….played through them. Had a small keychain shaped like a telephone that was as loud as a house phone, held it up in the air and would intermittently let it ring. I kept changing the noises and finally they got because they couldn’t sleep. That guy learned to keep the noise levels down at night after he learned how easily noises travel.

Gusman · 61-69, M

@cherokeepatti It shows a lack of respect by them and sometimes we need to take a stand.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@Gusman I live in a university city and it got so bad with so many residents speaking out in front of the city council that they passed a party-house ordinance and if the police come out at night due to noise they can cite the owners of the residence and fine them heavily. Frat boys were going together and renting apartments to party in since they couldn’t drink At the frat parties if they were underage and they would use it for parties or to bring their girlfriends. One of their neighbors told me a long time ago there was never a day or night without a lot of noise.

Carissimi · F

It’s not necessarily a lack of respect. Some are just clueless about consideration of others. If you had mentioned it to him 6-months ago that it was keeping you awake, he probably would have had the same good attitude. People don’t know there is a problem until you let them know. @Gusman