Do you dim your light for others?
I increasingly find this to be true in many relationships that I am aware of. One partners dims their shine to make the other half more comfortable. Pretty horrible really.
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PatKirby · M
Good question. My tendency is no, because of my self respect and self esteem that I choose not to compromise. The problem is, it's gotten me into trouble and fights for years. So I choose to employ discretion when I sense it's affecting someone else negatively. In that case, I make a subtle adjustment in consideration to them in the interest of maintaining and preserving friendship because I value them more than selfishly expressing myself inconsiderately.
Later on I let my light shine brighter and brighter in temperance to those close friends. In contrast to like minded, intelligent new acquaintances - all bets are off and we're off to the races. This skill took years to develop. However it in now way infringes upon my sense of self-worth or core values. I also practice this selectively at work because I want to keep my job. Non-friends and non-coworkers, if you can't keep up, so be it. You can kiss my shiny asteroid.
Later on I let my light shine brighter and brighter in temperance to those close friends. In contrast to like minded, intelligent new acquaintances - all bets are off and we're off to the races. This skill took years to develop. However it in now way infringes upon my sense of self-worth or core values. I also practice this selectively at work because I want to keep my job. Non-friends and non-coworkers, if you can't keep up, so be it. You can kiss my shiny asteroid.