Why do YOU pry or continue to torture social outcasts?

@MarkPaul If I must be honest I’ve never liked any of your opinions. I feel like every time you comment on my posts I’m often not in agreement with you. 😆 Although I do appreciate a difference in opinion or suggestion from my own. It definitely makes me think about my own preferences and opinions. I’m not one to block or discredit opinions different from my own because I can often dissect and even come to understand other peoples points of views. In this case I get what you’re saying but I dare to be the guy who refuses to do that because screw their unstable version of happiness. If all it takes is 1 coworkers’ disapproval of them to make em unhappy then screw them! Although I am trying to understand why they feel the need to get my approval…I’m honestly confused.

@HermannFegelein I think perhaps you are oriented to being anti-social due to sheer laziness on your part. I say that not to be insulting or to comment on your behaviour, but instead to point out people who give off anti-social vibes, like you, usually work at it with lots of energy.

@MarkPaul laziness? How? I’m at work to earn money not friends.

@HermannFegelein Earning money is easy. A monkey can literally do what you do. Making friends, being social is hard work. Even your responses smack of laziness. No offense.

@MarkPaul never claimed it wasn’t. Just claimed certain people can make it a pain. I’ll say this, working hard doesn’t on its own mean anything. You can work hard to be the best rapper but if you don’t care or enjoy rapping then what’s the point of working hard at it?

@HermannFegelein That part is true Mr. Fegelein. What you need to learn though is that working with others, on some level of social interaction, is very much part of the job, whether it's sitting at a desk and pushing buttons or rapping to your heart's content. A word to to the wise, mate.

@MarkPaul indeed. You see I’m definitely capable of understanding the other side and like I said even agreeing. But don’t be upset when someone like me pretends to be fascinated by your popsicle stick jokes at work. I’m only kinda laughing to spare you from feeling insecure. I doubt that part of work really even matters at all in keeping things running properly at work and doing my job right.

@HermannFegelein Perhaps you give yourself too much credit from a self-absorbed existence. And, for the record, I stick to amusing anecdotes and don't waste my time on popsicle stick jokes to the apathetic.

@HermannFegelein No, I don't But, we're not talking about me. I'm genuine. We're talking about the minions and malcontents who you work with. And, let's not forget about your own ego. And, so when we combine those dynamics, my prognosis is to make some sh*t up and tell them what they think they want to hear. It will satisfy you and them.

@MarkPaul see but amusing is subjective. Some people don’t find your stories very interesting. Are you gonna talk their ears off hoping they’ll someday find em interesting?

@HermannFegelein Trust me, they find it interesting. The more they deny it, the more interested they are. That's just one side of human nature and how it works.

@MarkPaul ahh and here’s the root that needs to be pulled. You see I believe 100% that not everyone will find your stories interesting. How do I know? Well because I’ve ran into people who have told me pointless things just to fill the air for the sake of filling the air and I’ve found them pretty boring. Another side of human nature is that we can find things uninteresting just like any human can find your particular stories uninteresting. Sorry man but you can’t please everyone.

@HermannFegelein No, mate... YOU can't please everyone. And, again it's not because you don't have the capacity to do it. It's sheer laziness. On the other hand, I'm an observant student of human nature. I understand how this works; you don't. Do you see the difference?

@MarkPaul wow I actually pity you for having such a desire. I don’t and can’t please everyone. You’re absolutely right about that. I guess at this point it might surprise you but I don’t care to please everyone. Neither you or me have the capacity to please everyone. Let’s put it this way, if I was working with you…..well let’s just say you wouldn’t be very good at pleasing me. Right there your argument is already proven wrong. And you’re wrong, it’s not sheer laziness. It’s sheer carelessness. I don’t care if you get insecure that I don’t like you.

@HermannFegelein What you can't seem to wrap your miniature head around is that relating to individuals is how you please people. It doesn't mean everyone will love you or that should even be pursued. But, it does mean relating to people on an individual level. That's something I know how to do and something you have yet to learn. But, let me just say, with your attitude you just may never get the hang of it. I'm sorry to have to tell you that in such a brutally honest way. It's for your own good though.

@MarkPaul but I don’t care to please my coworkers. If I don’t laugh or acknowledge their jokes unrelated to work then that’s okay with me. The problem is they seem to keep pursuing a goal that is unattainable which I find annoying. At the end of the day I don’t go to work to make friends or even laugh. I go to work to earn money. I’m working with humans where simple acknowledgments like “Yes I did press go” or “the new lot has been scanned” are sufficient enough to keep things running smoothly. Anything outside of work related talk is not necessary to keep my job. I won’t get fired just because I didn’t find Jakes stories all that amusing or because I didn’t wanna open up to Karen emotionally. Again I won’t quit my job or change my social habits at work just because my coworkers get upset that I won’t relate with them. I’m simply stating what I find annoying and dissatisfying about work. I never claimed it wasn’t allowed or that it was wrong. All I’m saying is that they can try all they want but me and them aren’t gonna be buddies anytime soon.

@HermannFegelein You seem afraid to let them know you. What are you hiding?

@MarkPaul That is exactly what it is going on Mark! But the question you forgot to ask is “what gives you or them the right to know?” Trust me when I say this man, I know a guy who talks just like you. It’s almost like a Vegeta and Goku or Scar and Mufasa thing that happens between us. There’s always one or a handful at every job. They seem to be oblivious to the reasons why someone might prefer to be alone. There’s this thing called having deep insecurities where one develops defense mechanisms to protect themselves due to past traumatic events worse than being bullied at school or getting rejected by their crush where their sense of trust gets totally demolished beyond what many would consider beyond repair. It’s ironic because I myself know it’s a silly defense mechanism but it’s there naturally and I have to deal with it. Apparently you’ve never come to understand this concept either because you’ve never experienced such tragic events, so naturally you can’t fully understand or because you refuse to acknowledge the dark side of human nature that you’ve apparently never witnessed. Why don’t you tell us something dark in your past Mark?! What’s your deepest darkest secret huh? Obviously it’d be easy to tell you why so I’ll tell you why but only because I can stay anonymous on this site but it’s not so easy for that guy at your place of work to explain him/herself to you. What am I hiding? I’ll tell you! It’s the fact that my earliest memory in life is watching my own father beat my oldest brother in the kitchen late at night while he bled and cried in pain, fear, and sadness. it’s the constant fear I lived in while in my own home as a child. It’s being picked up and thrown across my bedroom violently, it’s getting screamed at for accidentally forgetting my football shoulder pads before leaving for the stupid game, its how anytime I failed at something it was always wrong because I made my father look bad according to my own father, it’s how I subconsciously gave up trying to make friends because my parents switched homes every 2-3 years so I subconsciously adopted the defense mechanism of AVPD to avoid the pain of loss because any attempts at making friends would be futile due to switching schools, it’s how I’ve actually witnessed people being dismembered alive. If I can’t trust my own father or my own mother who took her sweet time divorcing him then who the hell am I supposed to trust? Some people I’ve only known for a few weeks at work? A couple of classmates who I’ve only known for a few hours in class? I’m supposed to just laugh at silly jokes when I’ve got disturbing flashbacks running through my mind every day? I don’t want people to know this! This is why I keep to myself because the eyes are the window to the soul and they can see the pain in my eyes and it hurts everytime they reject me because of it. If I could wear a stupid clown mask for the rest of my life I would. That way I would always be smiling and even tell a joke here and there like everything was alright.

@HermannFegelein That's a horrifying background, for sure. But, blaming the rest of us for what happened isn't a productive or strategic solution. You've taken comfort in hiding and now you've turned hiding into a lifestyle. And, while blaming the rest of us, let's not dismiss the fact you also are punishing yourself. What you need to tell yourself... if/until you can get yourself to hear it is... you have done nothing wrong.

You did nothing wrong when people you encountered in your life did horrible things. And, the people around you today are not at fault for trying to be social with you. You don't need to seek refuge in hiding. Sadly, hiding will show no loyalty to you and will never give you the satisfaction you are seeking.