Why do YOU pry or continue to torture social outcasts?

@HermannFegelein You seem afraid to let them know you. What are you hiding?

@MarkPaul That is exactly what it is going on Mark! But the question you forgot to ask is “what gives you or them the right to know?” Trust me when I say this man, I know a guy who talks just like you. It’s almost like a Vegeta and Goku or Scar and Mufasa thing that happens between us. There’s always one or a handful at every job. They seem to be oblivious to the reasons why someone might prefer to be alone. There’s this thing called having deep insecurities where one develops defense mechanisms to protect themselves due to past traumatic events worse than being bullied at school or getting rejected by their crush where their sense of trust gets totally demolished beyond what many would consider beyond repair. It’s ironic because I myself know it’s a silly defense mechanism but it’s there naturally and I have to deal with it. Apparently you’ve never come to understand this concept either because you’ve never experienced such tragic events, so naturally you can’t fully understand or because you refuse to acknowledge the dark side of human nature that you’ve apparently never witnessed. Why don’t you tell us something dark in your past Mark?! What’s your deepest darkest secret huh? Obviously it’d be easy to tell you why so I’ll tell you why but only because I can stay anonymous on this site but it’s not so easy for that guy at your place of work to explain him/herself to you. What am I hiding? I’ll tell you! It’s the fact that my earliest memory in life is watching my own father beat my oldest brother in the kitchen late at night while he bled and cried in pain, fear, and sadness. it’s the constant fear I lived in while in my own home as a child. It’s being picked up and thrown across my bedroom violently, it’s getting screamed at for accidentally forgetting my football shoulder pads before leaving for the stupid game, its how anytime I failed at something it was always wrong because I made my father look bad according to my own father, it’s how I subconsciously gave up trying to make friends because my parents switched homes every 2-3 years so I subconsciously adopted the defense mechanism of AVPD to avoid the pain of loss because any attempts at making friends would be futile due to switching schools, it’s how I’ve actually witnessed people being dismembered alive. If I can’t trust my own father or my own mother who took her sweet time divorcing him then who the hell am I supposed to trust? Some people I’ve only known for a few weeks at work? A couple of classmates who I’ve only known for a few hours in class? I’m supposed to just laugh at silly jokes when I’ve got disturbing flashbacks running through my mind every day? I don’t want people to know this! This is why I keep to myself because the eyes are the window to the soul and they can see the pain in my eyes and it hurts everytime they reject me because of it. If I could wear a stupid clown mask for the rest of my life I would. That way I would always be smiling and even tell a joke here and there like everything was alright.

@HermannFegelein That's a horrifying background, for sure. But, blaming the rest of us for what happened isn't a productive or strategic solution. You've taken comfort in hiding and now you've turned hiding into a lifestyle. And, while blaming the rest of us, let's not dismiss the fact you also are punishing yourself. What you need to tell yourself... if/until you can get yourself to hear it is... you have done nothing wrong.

You did nothing wrong when people you encountered in your life did horrible things. And, the people around you today are not at fault for trying to be social with you. You don't need to seek refuge in hiding. Sadly, hiding will show no loyalty to you and will never give you the satisfaction you are seeking.

Filling the air with nonsense is meaningless to me. Would it kill them to be silent for a few hours? @SStarfish