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While you were young what form of punishment did your Parents mete out?

My Mother was sadistic in her beating of me. Most likely because her Mother - My Grandmother was sadistic in the beating of her.
My Mother divorced, her Mother came to look after the children. She was more sadistic than my Mother.
It seems what ever was meted out to each generation, carried through.
Until laws began to curb the sadism.
That is not to say that beating of children has stopped. We know it still goes on.
Back when I was young, there was no recourse to the beatings. It was allowed, encouraged, to instill compliance and discipline.
Failed miserably in my case. Rebellious, obstinate child that I was.
The more I was beaten, the more rebellious I was.
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I can relate to this and I'm almost half your age. My maternal ancestors were all sadistic arseholes and my paternal ancestors are narcissistic without the physical discipline. It got better when corporal punishment was banned from school and eventually a backward community obligated to follow protocol.
Gusman · 61-69, M
@DrScissorhands I think there are still those parents who beat their kids.
Because of their own upbringing, they continue the sadism
My mother tried to break the habit. It didn't stop till I was well into my teens. I was a very rebellious kid @Gusman
Gusman · 61-69, M
@DrScissorhands With good reason no doubt.
If Parents are beating on children, the children come to almost detest their parents and do what is necessary to create personal self esteem.
"Think your beatings will get me to conform? Wrong. Go on, Try your Best"
That was my thought processes whilst recieving a beating
I suppose it came with the mentality at that time that you spare the rod and you spoil the child. That mantra was rife in my upbringing @Gusman
Gusman · 61-69, M
@DrScissorhands A Mantra that in my opinion was so wrong.
I detested my Mother, she left when I was 8.
Imagine a Mother so twisted with hatred for her alcoholic Husband that her only outlet was to beat her 5 young children very, very regularly.
I went to see her when I was 24 and asked her to explain herself.
All she could say was my Father was never there for her and that she craved love that he never gave.
"So why beat up your very young children"?
All she could say was
"I am sorry for the way I reacted"
I never spoke to her again.
Life can be sad. We can get over the torment if we allow ourselves to.
I am well over it, but it took me 25 years of extreme alcoholism and drug addiction.
I am free of all that am I love the person I have become.
Caring, empathetic, with a penchant for helping the down and outs.
It's awful. I'm sorry you went through it, yet happy you're better than the circumstances presented to you. Even if it took a hell of a long time to get through it. @Gusman
Gusman · 61-69, M
@DrScissorhands Thank you.
You are over your upbringing?
Yes. It took me years too, to stop resenting my mother. She has gone mellow in her old age. We've
nothing but love for each other now. @Gusman