Do you struggle with telling people "No" or when you feel you might let someone down?

Something I have no problem with is saying no. I'm an expert at saying no😂

I hate hurting people I love ,,BUT
I am a firm believer in sometimes love has to be tough
and like discipline ,we hate to do it ,,
but a child without any will bring you shame
So there are a lot of things I hate having to do

I am able to push past the worry of them being mad at me or disappointed in me to do the needful thing

I was afraid of having to hurt one person that was already hurting me
So I hurt someone else by keeping silent hoping it would all work itself out
In the end everyone was hurt
I have not repeated that mistake again
If it needs said ,painful or not .I force myself to say it

Especially when people want me to enable them
A place to stay then they won't work
rides when they want work and earn their own transportation
Help when I know they just want to use me for free labor

I can say no when need be
I tell my kids ,,if in the end someone is going to talk bad about you anyway
go ahead and be the bad guy up front
They are going to still talk bad about you for not helping them
but at least its cost you nothing
To often people use you ,and when you say enough is enough they won't blame themselves .so it has to be you're fault
I prefer them blame me ,but its not cost me anything ,I said NO

Not really... no.
... I think "no" is an important word and it's not used often enough because people are afraid that denying someone something automatically will result in them having bad feelings. This conforming thing is kinda destructive over time.

3 weeks ago, my studygroup decided that someone would make the powerpoint for a text we created. The person that made the powerpoint put a lot of time and effort in it, but it wasn't a good result. The 3 other people were pretty dissapointed by what was produced. However, for some fucked up reason, the other two told her that it was okay because they were afraid to hurt her feelins. And Emailed me (because I was absent last week) without putting her in copy to tell the bad news, because they aren't good at telling "bad news". In other words: "please safe us from our own conformism because we don't want to be the bad guys"... that's how stupid this behavior is.

Not anymore. I used to, though.

I think the best way is to say no with an explanation and something positive immediately after haha.

I don’t have any problem with it at all.
It’s a sanity preserving measure.

I do have a problem with that. I have learned to think of what the impact will be to myself if I say yes.

Family, yes - other people not generally

Yes i struggle with that sometimes.

Yes I do most of the time.

Easy as 1, 2, 3!!

Absolutely not

Yeah, though it depends on whom they are to me... but if I like them, and especially if they're special to me, yeah I sometimes struggle saying no.

Though it depends on what it is, that they're asking of me, and who they are to me.

Not anymore..

Not once. If the answer is no, then it's no.
Someone, somewhere, will always be let down (or think thy have been).

Yes but the thing is I end up hurt in the end by the same person. Irony right

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Not usually, unless it is someone I don’t want to let down.

Not at all.

At times yes

Often

I always try to be fair to them, and most importantly fair to myself😊

no