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Kwek00 · 41-45, M
Not really... no.
... I think "no" is an important word and it's not used often enough because people are afraid that denying someone something automatically will result in them having bad feelings. This conforming thing is kinda destructive over time.
3 weeks ago, my studygroup decided that someone would make the powerpoint for a text we created. The person that made the powerpoint put a lot of time and effort in it, but it wasn't a good result. The 3 other people were pretty dissapointed by what was produced. However, for some fucked up reason, the other two told her that it was okay because they were afraid to hurt her feelins. And Emailed me (because I was absent last week) without putting her in copy to tell the bad news, because they aren't good at telling "bad news". In other words: "please safe us from our own conformism because we don't want to be the bad guys"... that's how stupid this behavior is.
... I think "no" is an important word and it's not used often enough because people are afraid that denying someone something automatically will result in them having bad feelings. This conforming thing is kinda destructive over time.
3 weeks ago, my studygroup decided that someone would make the powerpoint for a text we created. The person that made the powerpoint put a lot of time and effort in it, but it wasn't a good result. The 3 other people were pretty dissapointed by what was produced. However, for some fucked up reason, the other two told her that it was okay because they were afraid to hurt her feelins. And Emailed me (because I was absent last week) without putting her in copy to tell the bad news, because they aren't good at telling "bad news". In other words: "please safe us from our own conformism because we don't want to be the bad guys"... that's how stupid this behavior is.