Do you struggle with telling people "No" or when you feel you might let someone down?

I hate hurting people I love ,,BUT
I am a firm believer in sometimes love has to be tough
and like discipline ,we hate to do it ,,
but a child without any will bring you shame
So there are a lot of things I hate having to do

I am able to push past the worry of them being mad at me or disappointed in me to do the needful thing

I was afraid of having to hurt one person that was already hurting me
So I hurt someone else by keeping silent hoping it would all work itself out
In the end everyone was hurt
I have not repeated that mistake again
If it needs said ,painful or not .I force myself to say it

Especially when people want me to enable them
A place to stay then they won't work
rides when they want work and earn their own transportation
Help when I know they just want to use me for free labor

I can say no when need be
I tell my kids ,,if in the end someone is going to talk bad about you anyway
go ahead and be the bad guy up front
They are going to still talk bad about you for not helping them
but at least its cost you nothing
To often people use you ,and when you say enough is enough they won't blame themselves .so it has to be you're fault
I prefer them blame me ,but its not cost me anything ,I said NO