Ugly girls have it easy?

I don't mean ugly offensively- whilst I do believe that beauty can be subjective in off chances, I think there's a general concensus on what's considered beautiful, such as the golden ratio. Pretty girls get attention from men more, generally speaking. But the men who approach pretty women are much more likely to be confident. You can obviously get confident nice guys- but I think generally decent guys who aren't big headed will be hesitant to go up to a girl due to feeling intimidated etc. I feel like the types of guys who make a move on a pretty girl are only looking to get it on. This may be due to the stereotype that pretty girls 'don't have a personality' (i can't count the amount of movies where the pretty girl is either mean or seductive). Looks don't determine your personality. Beauty means nothing. The media wants to constantly tell girls they need to look good, that they're worth more if they're pretty, because the beauty industry wouldn't survive otherwise. How can you know if a guy genuinely likes you (love), or if he likes you for your looks (lust)? Looks fade, and surely to be loved for your mind is what bonds you and a partner together, even when you're old and grey. It kinda bugs me when someone's like 'wow, you're more than just a pretty face' or 'you're different/special' because it really confirms how powerful stereotypes about pretty women are, and it's hard to trust people this way, because they act shocked that you have a brain, like they only talked to you for the purpose of your looks because they thought that's all you had to offer. Sorry for the ranting, just thought about this and wanted to get it out 😂 so 'ugly' girls you shouldn't ever feel bad about your looks- you'll have a deep intimate connection with someone who really likes you and when he falls in love with your mind you'll become pretty in his eyes😊

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blindbob · 41-45

actually you've got this backward. men tend to think ugly girls are desperate so they try out all their weird sexual fantasies on them but still refuse to acknowledge them in public.

SW-User

This.

youprobablydontknowme · 22-25, F

Good point. But I know so many ugly girls in relationships so I'm pretty sure what you're talking about is rare?

blindbob · 41-45

@Anongirl: you're only 18. give life time to fill you in.

Myzery · 41-45, F

This too. They will come ask if you will let them degrade you and when you refuse they insult you and say, "You should take what you can. You're too ugly to be picky about what is offered to you."

youprobablydontknowme · 22-25, F

@blindbob: and once they've used ugly girls, they'll go after the good looking girls, but this time acting decieving, confident and nice. That's what I mean when I'm saying the assholes go for the good looking girls

youprobablydontknowme · 22-25, F

@Myzery: shit that's mean😢

blindbob · 41-45

@Anongirl: i'm just not following your argument at all. it smacks of little real life experience. in no way can you convince me that decent good looking guys go out of their way to court unattractive women. in general, women tend to be better looking than their male partners or they're evenly matched in the looks department. rarely, if ever, do you see a man who is better looking than his mate--and in those cases, something else is going on, like he's gay, bi, or they're in an open relationship.

youprobablydontknowme · 22-25, F

@blindbob: I'm not saying decent guys are attractive though, I'm meaning decent as in nice.

blindbob · 41-45

@Anongirl: even ugly guys want the beautiful women. even if a man "settles" for an ugly woman for sex, he'll keep his eyes open and the minute a beautiful woman gives him any attention, he'll drop the ugly woman in a heartbeat.

youprobablydontknowme · 22-25, F

@blindbob: the type of ugly guys you're talking about there, are mean and self centred. I'm pretty sure not every guy is like that

blindbob · 41-45

@Anongirl: i don't think they're mean or self-centered; it's just a natural reaction to our society. an ugly man having a beautiful woman's attention or adoration is elevated in social status. having an ugly woman will lower his status, or at best, keep it unchanged. why wouldn't someone want the privileges of an elevated social status?

youprobablydontknowme · 22-25, F

@blindbob: breaking up with your girlfriend for another girl isn't self serving? Hmm I don't know. Because someone might have the brain to realise that social status is bullshit, you shouldn't choose someone because they make you look good.

blindbob · 41-45

@Anongirl: i agree with you that the social status stuff is bullshit. you should be brave enough to be with who you want to be with, but we don't exist in a vacuum. society is so twisted that it re-programs people not to even realize that they've been brainwashed.

youprobablydontknowme · 22-25, F

@blindbob: oh right 😮 I see where you were getting at now that's interesting