"You don't look hard of hearing/deaf in one ear" Okay, but what the f--k does a hard of hearing/deaf person look like in the first place?

Like, do you think we're born with marks on our foreheads that say, "I can't fookin' hear"?
Seriously though, some people kill me with the things they come up with. Not only have I had people doubt my severe hearing loss because I don't "look deaf/hard of hearing" but it also happened to another person I know and he even wearing hearing aids and they still said the same shizz to him. I'm confused though as to what a deaf/hoh person is supposed to look like in the eyes of some people.