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How does a person live alone and not get lonely? (both)

I have lived alone for more than 30 years and in all that time I have never been lonely.
Some people do not need others around them to enjoy life.
While others have this compulsion to talk for talkings sake. To engage non stop in chit chat.
I have a huge variety of interests. Be it Jigsaws puzzles, crosswords, reading both fiction(horror) and non fiction books.
My number one method to keeping boredom at bay is to go camping across this wide state of mine. Western Australia is 2.646 million sq km's.(England is 130,000)
Camping, fishing, beach combing, bush walking, easy mountain climbing, canoeing, crabbing,.
I think there are certain truths I have embraced to enjoy a contented life. I do not feel I am missing out on anything.
I know marriage is no guarantee to stave off loneliness. I have a strong self image of myself so I do not need constant reassurance from others. I do engage with those around me. I know my local corner store owners by name. We share life's little moments when I visit their store.
If and when negative thoughts crop up in my mind, and it does happen from time to time, I actively take steps to be rid of them. I say out loud, "Get out of my head, you are not wanted"
I write the negativity out of my mind. Very effective way to remove it. Pick up a pen and write. Do not think about what to write. Just let it flow until there is no more.
My life is one of contentment that I have made to work. It does not happen without putting in some effort. I smile inwardly when I hear people say, " I'm bored"
I think, "Well your not putting in an effort to change the situation.
It also gives me mirth when people say, "I never meet anyone, no one invites me out" All this while sitting on the couch playing video games for 18 hours a day.
Life does not come knocking on your door. You want a life of contentment? Get out there and make it happen.
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Newkidintown · 51-55, M
Well written post. I have read the comments others have made and found them interesting as well. You have said you are content. Good to hear. But I do wonder if there is anything that you feel you have missed out on, any longings or regrets.
Gusman · 61-69, M
@Newkidintown No regrets. But yeah, I have missed out on a lot. My upbringing was distraught. So early on I never had the chance to "find" the real me.
With this in mind, I have shaped my life so as to not need anyone in it.
I have friends that I keep at a distance, I have someone for intimate relations when the urge is overwhelming.
I am content to live as I am. Unencumbered with expectations of society
Newkidintown · 51-55, M
@Gusman it is refreshing to hear from somone who is not wanting from this world.
Sorry for your difficult upbringing, but stay content my friend.
Gusman · 61-69, M
@Newkidintown Thank you, and I will be content with my lot for the next 10,950 days, at least☺,(30 years)
Newkidintown · 51-55, M
@Gusman Whoa...such an exact end date! Are you sure you're not a replicant with a scheduled termination?
Gusman · 61-69, M
@Newkidintown Well, I was bio engineered way before Bladerunner came onto the scene.
Back when I was produced in the petrie dish, the scientists envisaged the older generation would be better at running the world. No cut off age at 30 as depicted in Logan's Run. There is wisdom in us oldies and they knew mankind's only hope of survival was to tap into that wisdom.
Newkidintown · 51-55, M
@Gusman Ha! I was debating whether to reference BR or LR ;)
Gusman · 61-69, M
@Newkidintown Always express what is on your mind. Then you are never left wondering, should I have?☺
Newkidintown · 51-55, M
@Gusman I try to. Often you have just a fleeting opportunity to, and must seize the moment.