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How does a person live alone and not get lonely? (both)

I have lived alone for more than 30 years and in all that time I have never been lonely.
Some people do not need others around them to enjoy life.
While others have this compulsion to talk for talkings sake. To engage non stop in chit chat.
I have a huge variety of interests. Be it Jigsaws puzzles, crosswords, reading both fiction(horror) and non fiction books.
My number one method to keeping boredom at bay is to go camping across this wide state of mine. Western Australia is 2.646 million sq km's.(England is 130,000)
Camping, fishing, beach combing, bush walking, easy mountain climbing, canoeing, crabbing,.
I think there are certain truths I have embraced to enjoy a contented life. I do not feel I am missing out on anything.
I know marriage is no guarantee to stave off loneliness. I have a strong self image of myself so I do not need constant reassurance from others. I do engage with those around me. I know my local corner store owners by name. We share life's little moments when I visit their store.
If and when negative thoughts crop up in my mind, and it does happen from time to time, I actively take steps to be rid of them. I say out loud, "Get out of my head, you are not wanted"
I write the negativity out of my mind. Very effective way to remove it. Pick up a pen and write. Do not think about what to write. Just let it flow until there is no more.
My life is one of contentment that I have made to work. It does not happen without putting in some effort. I smile inwardly when I hear people say, " I'm bored"
I think, "Well your not putting in an effort to change the situation.
It also gives me mirth when people say, "I never meet anyone, no one invites me out" All this while sitting on the couch playing video games for 18 hours a day.
Life does not come knocking on your door. You want a life of contentment? Get out there and make it happen.
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Trevo · 26-30, M
This is how I personally see things.

Human beings need to engage with others in order to be "happy". This is not just an opinion, we're a social species. Being social has helped us to survive. It's in our genes.


In my opinion you've been using a number of distractions to block the feelings of loneliness you experience. It doesn't mean you don't feel lonely, it just means you don't give yourself the chance to experience these feelings.

The most important thing in life is to be happy. If you've made it this far without needing anyone around, regardless of the way you did it, then that's great.
Gusman · 61-69, M
@Trevo I am what I call content. Happiness is a fleeting experience. A person can not be happy all the time. But one can feel contentment through out one's life if they surround themselves with things that they enjoy
Trevo · 26-30, M
@Gusman I agree
Unlearn · 41-45, M
Peace and contentment is our natural state...and not excitement. What isn't a distraction in life?!! @Trevo
Trevo · 26-30, M
@Unlearn No. I don't think so. Humans have never been detached from their emotions. Our natural state includes peace and content but it also includes all negative emotions you can imagine. All this together helped us evolve and survive.

Many things aren't just a distraction. I'm not against people using distractions to feel content, as I already said. But in this particular case we can say that he is an exception to the norm.
Unlearn · 41-45, M
@Trevo speak about yourself. I know plenty...
Trevo · 26-30, M
@Unlearn I'm not speaking about myself. I don't care how much you know about. I'm saying nothing new, this doesn't come from me. I'm merely repeating what studies on the subject reported.

Now each person is a person. There's always room for expectations.
Unlearn · 41-45, M
@Trevo and that exactly is the problem... study as much as you want on swimming but you can only swim when you get in the water.
Trevo · 26-30, M
@Unlearn don't forget I'm a human too. I have my own experiences and I'm sure many have similar ones. I can not impose my experiences as having more value than yours. That's when studies and stats reveal themselves to be important. They give us a general picture of reality.
Unlearn · 41-45, M
@Trevo well...happy studying and living to you :-)
Trevo · 26-30, M
@Unlearn since I began having more insight on the subject my life has only improved. So thank you 😊