Why am I having so much trouble forgiving this person?

I don't think I ever had trouble forgiving people, it always came easily to me but this one person that promised me she was a safe place, lied to us and told me my disabilities doesn't exist and then posted it online for people to make fun of me and made us homeless, made me suffer It's been snce March i still can't forgive, not like she will ever say sorry but i usually don't need someone to apologize to forgive them but this time. I can't understand this, I have forgiven people that almost killed me, I have forgiven my mother for all the bad stuff she did and abandoning me but I can't forgive this one person

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OlderSometimesWiser · F

Sounds like she hurt you the deepest. Maybe you’re still suffering the consequences of her actions. March isn’t all that long ago. But still, forgiveness doesn’t always come.

Itsjustbrit · 26-30, F

@OlderSometimesWiser Holy crap that made me burst with tears..because I really am still suffering. It's really bad...I don't think I can survive any longer.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Itsjustbrit I’m so sorry, not my intention to make you cry. 🫂

But of course you can survive. Never give anyone that kind of power over you. Sounds like you’ve been through a lot yet you’re still here. Which means you’re a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for!

Itsjustbrit · 26-30, F

@OlderSometimesWiser It's okay, I rather cry instead of feeling numb because that was just awful. I just realy hope life will start getting better...I know there's going to be bad days but it's just been bad day ove and over again...

Tumbleweed · F

My perspective on this is that you seem to be a very trusting and sensitive person by nature and you invite people in, lovingly, without your guard up, and she preyed on you, for whatever twisted reasons she had, and deeply hurt you. I don't know why people are so cruel other than that they are miserable within themselves and want to make others just as miserable. I say forgive this person, not because they deserve it, but because you deserve peace. And let it go. And learn from this, to be a bit more guarded as to who you let in. Never lose who you are & never let anyone else take that from you. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Itsjustbrit · 26-30, F

@Tumbleweed I trusted her... you're right I do need to forgive her for my own peace but it's hard because I'm still suffering what she did and my child has had a really bad time as well. She made me and my child suffer. I guess i still have to work on forgiving her.

Tumbleweed · F

@Itsjustbrit I completely understand that. My kids were hurt due to my own bad choices and years and years later, I still haven't forgiven myself for putting them in that situation. As for the person who did it, they'll answer for it one day, but I just can't forgive ME. I truly hope you find peace 🪻

smiler2012 · 56-60

@Itsjustbrit 😞sorry some people are callous you can get over being hurt by some insensitive comments.but this this is unnecessary and then too add insult too injury having others poke fun at you is unforgivable

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

I'm of the firm belief that some people do not deserve apologies.

The only person we'll ever truly 'owe' forgiveness to is ourselves.

Aysel · F

When someone is abandoned, they go through a wave of unimaginable pain. You question why you were so easily discarded—your own self-worth. A lot remains unanswered; without closure, forgiveness is difficult.

Barefooter25 · 46-50, M

I am so sorry. Unfortunately, there are too many cruel and mean people in the world these days. Forgiveness is something that has to be earned.

beckyromero · 36-40, F

Forgiveness should be earned.

Itsjustbrit · 26-30, F

@beckyromero Yeah you're right... Still always came easy to me but not this time

Lilnonames · F

Yup I had that happen here too

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