Closet lesbian, iranian

I am a 27 year old iranian closet lesbian. I come from a strict family background. Just want to talk to someone who shares the same experiences like me. Strict family/culture, religion barrier, in the closet. Just want to talk about experiences and how they cope with it.

I really have no-one to talk to about who i really am from the inside, day by day my depression Just increases and it doesn't get any better. My whole life i have been lying to myself putting a mask on my face pretending to be a straight girl, I'm unable to take that mask of.

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CountScrofula · 41-45, M

There are a few Persians on here as well. I hope things are going okay with you considering all the protests and turmoil and you're safe - and that maybe things get better as a result!

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CountScrofula · 41-45, M

@Persiangirlx Got it but even being in England your family is going to have their very strong expectations for you and being gay is going to be... very hard. I getcha <3

Persiangirlx · 26-30, F

@CountScrofula
Yes, you understand, thank you x

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

@Persiangirlx And I hope you find just the cutest girl to be with <3

Nanori · F

I just read the comments and saw that u live in England, it's a free country for that so your next step is to find yourself, your courage and put your foot down

Ynotisay · M

Well, it seems like the women of Iran are fighting to not wear other types of masks. Maybe things will change. I think most of the world is hoping for that.
It sounds trite, and easier to say than it is to do, but there's lot of countries in the world where people aren't oppressed in the way there are there. We have one shot at life, you know? There's an enormous Iranian population in Los Angeles. I actually lived next to a Persian lesbian couple when I lived there. No hijab required and you can be who you are. Maybe something to shoot for. Good luck. And sorry but fuck those who oppress through religion and culture. They don't have the right.

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Ynotisay · M

@Persiangirlx Thanks for that. The world is watching right now. Something has to change. And this protest is different than those in the past.
If you're in England it's a very different thing. Then it's a matter of you breaking free from what's holding you down. I understand the importance of family. Particularly in some cultures. What I don't understand is when family would not accept or want what's best for their family members. So this is THEIR issue. Not yours. You shouldn't have to pay for their insecurities. I'm very sure there's a whole lot of support groups there. Maybe just talking to some women who have faced similar circumstances would help. You're DEFINITELY not alone. For sure. Good luck.

Persiangirlx · 26-30, F

@Ynotisay
I'm glad that everyone can see for many how years the people of iran have been oppressed, especially the females. The Iranian Islamic leaders do not represent the people of iran, if it wasn't for the Islamic leaders, iran would have been a better country today. I believe that iran will be free, the whole world is getting to see how the people have suffered.

The things that hold me down is, my family reputation, society. Like for example I have an uncle who is gay, I saw how he had suffered and what he had to go through, it wasn't nice. Then you get people who find out your a lesbian and they start to post nasty things about you online. Since a teenager, I've suffered alot of depression oppressing myself and my feelings and I still do. So it's like a gamble for me to even try to open up because I wouldn't know what would come at me.

I am trying to find people who are going through the same situation I am going through.

Thank you so much x

Ynotisay · M

@Persiangirlx If you're looking for the people who understand...you'll find them. Because they're out there. WAY more of them than there are "haters." For sure. Not sure where you are but most areas have some gay friendly establishments. Maybe just being around others would help you not feel so alone. Hate to hear these kind of stories. I'm straight but many of my closest friends are gay. It's irrelevant to me. I'll never, ever understand why some get so hateful. I know it's insecurity, and ridiculous religious stuff, but man. What a lousy way to go through life. I'm SURE you'll find your way where you don't have to worry about that kind of thing. It's YOUR life. You run you. Best of luck.

llloydfred · 56-60, M

Read and love your Koran and find out who you are.

Persiangirlx · 26-30, F

@llloydfred

The problem isnt the quran, you see
its the people who think they know how religion works, for example, in islam women have equal rights to men, they are seen above males. Females don't even need to wear a scaff its a choice. Homosexuality isnt mentioned either, but yet here some of us are oppressed and suffering.

If it wasnt for some of these men who try and dominate society and religion, we would all be happy and free.

llloydfred · 56-60, M

@Persiangirlx Homosexuality is a sin For Islam and your worried about the people, why not you just do what you need to do to be comfortable. Let God guide you and stop letting The People.

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