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I Do Not Understand Gender Reassignment [I Am In Support of Transgender and Genderqueer People]

I have people in my life who have undergone reassignment. I also respect the contributions of some folks here who have either transitioned or who are transitioning.

That said, I don't get it.

I completely understand gender fluidity. I understand the notion of not willing to adhere to societal expectations for behavior and interpersonal relationships. Two of my closest friends in the world are in a committed homosexual relationship and I consider that relationship to be more idealized that my sister and brother in law who wouldn't be able to find love on a map.

That said, I don't understand the notion that gender reassignment.

Gender dysmorphia can, logically, only be based on social programming. One's DNA will designate literal sex. The desire to live a life as a gendered female or male, I suppose, is a choice. But the need to alter one's biology seems forced to me.

I wonder if we are able to have an open and honest converation about this.

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JustGoneNow

I don’t understand being straight. But I can respect those that are. Must be an awful feeling being in a body that doesn’t represent who you feel you are inside. Awful and confusing. I can’t even imagine.

JoeyFoxx · 56-60, M

@JustGoneNow As I said, I completely understand the choices that people make and the desires of people to be with others.

But the recent obsession on needing science to intervene feels bizarre to me.

JustGoneNow

@JoeyFoxx One of my best friends was a pre-op transgender girl named Sam, when I was 20. I lie, though. She wasn’t one of my best friends… she was and always will be my very best friend that I’ve had my entire life. I can’t totally understand being held captive by my body in a gender that doesn’t represent me. She didn’t feel gender fluid. Sam felt like a girl. I know she sure thought like one and acted like one. Fuck, I acted often times more like a boy then she ever did. I’m not saying I can totally understand but I don’t understand what it’s like to be a man, but I can respect that you do. It’s much the same.

JoeyFoxx · 56-60, M

@JustGoneNow

what it’s like to be a man

And that's where I get frustrated and confused.

"being a man" is an experience dictated by society, not biology.

Please tell me where I am missing the point.

JustGoneNow

@JoeyFoxx I agree. I’m not sure that I can adequately explain being hostage in a body that doesn’t represent who you feel you are because I don’t completely understand myself, but I do accept and understand it’s true.

@Alison Tash, help a girl out. I promise you he’s not mean. He’s truly trying to make sense of it… and I don’t think he’s lived with someone that was trans. That’s what makes all of it easier for me to understand.

Alison · 22-25, F

@JustGoneNow @JoeyFoxx U just can't live with yourself. Gender dysphoria kills so people do what they can to avoid feeling it. Surgery can be a part of it, HRT, living a different kind of life.
But honestly what trans people do is usually between a choice between doing it or committing suicide.

I'm not sure anyone understands anyone else so I sit back and listen and don't have opinions much. I just listen.

JustGoneNow

@Alison I know that I can’t really understand, sweetie. But I also know it’s real. I’ve sort of seen it first hand. Thank you for replying, my friend. 🖤🤗
And honestly… I don’t have to fully understand, to support you in your journey. 🦋

JoeyFoxx · 56-60, M

@Alison I am struggling between the realities of what our DNA dictates and what society has mandated…

JustGoneNow

@JoeyFoxx Let’s simplify this. There are people that feel that their body parts don’t match who they are on the inside. These folks want to have on the outside what matches what they feel inside. Lead with kindness. My kindness says that I offer support and love on their journey. Fuck what I get. Fuck what you get. This is their body and what they choose to do with it. Period.

JoeyFoxx · 56-60, M

@JustGoneNow So, I should just accept without understanding?

JustGoneNow

@JoeyFoxx yes. I try to get as close as I can… but I can accept that I’m never gonna totally get it and support them on their journey. The two are not incompatible.

JustGoneNow

@JoeyFoxx You do you, but I lead from a path of kindness until none else remain.

JustGoneNow

@JoeyFoxx I mean nobody is asking you… to do it. So, it is all kinda just about them.

JoeyFoxx · 56-60, M

@JustGoneNow I get it. But, it's more complicated when there is a part of society looking for special consideration.

I am specifically challenged by the request that baseline insurance cover re-assignment surgery.

sarabee1995 · 26-30, FVIP

@JoeyFoxx Love this conversation. You two are awesome.

I don’t have to fully understand, to support you in your journey.

Perfect words and sentiment.

Joey... Like you, there is much I don't understand about transgendered people. I may have gone through periods where I was unsure of who or what I loved, but I have never doubted what I am.

So no, I don't "understand" transgenderism. But I don't need to. I know there are people who struggle with many things I have not struggled with.

I've not had cancer. Should baseline healthcare cover cancer? How about mental health? How about prosthetics?

The purpose of insurance is to spread costs of care across the population as a whole. Right?

JustGoneNow

@sarabee1995 I love you. I just want you to know that. We play flirt a lot and it’s fun… but as my friend, I totally love you. 🖤🤗

sarabee1995 · 26-30, FVIP

@JustGoneNow 🤗🤗🤗

JustGoneNow

@sarabee1995 I’m lucky to call you my friend. 🖤🤗