A big part of society are transphobic but they think they aren't as long as they don't physically attack trans people

I've noticed that a large amount of people are pushing transphobic views but they claim it's not transphobic and that it is to help.

The true intention is probably to help, but fact is its transphobia to be against trans rights. Such rights as if your teenage child say they are trans, you dismissing it as a phase or immaturity, is transphobic. Whether you like it or not. It's classified as transphobic.

Think about it. Why would anyone feel good about their family or friends or strangers online minimizing their identity and their decision in who they are? They are the ones to decide about their body and who they are. Not you, not me, not their classmates, partner, siblings, parents, teachers, therapists. No one else but themselves decide over their body.

To respect that also automatically teaches kids that no one can claim their bodies or want something with their bodies. So if you wanna prevent grooming and predators, respect your kids identity, take them seriously, respect your kids. They're humans too.

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Punches · 46-50, F

In the real world, most trans people do not get bothered if they are just trying to blend into everyday society. I think a lot of the ones who do face problems are the "loud and proud" ones.

I am kind of on the fence about trans kids issues though.

I do not think having drag queens going to schools to entertain, even if it is clean, reflects well on the trans community. I do not know why anyone thought that was a good idea.

I do think if someone is going to physically transition young, it would probably be best to wait a couple years from the time they "come out" instead of rushing. Plenty of counseling and living the part without medical procedures.

There is a rock and a hard place though for the young ones -
If they do it too soon and later decide it wasn't right, the damage is done.
If they wait too long and develop secondary s3x characteristics, it is much harder, if not impossible, to change things.

The only good part about the second scenario is that trans is slowly becoming more accepted, even with the recent set backs. So eventually it may not even matter if they pass as their chosen gender or not.
But time will tell.

SilkandLace2 · 46-50, M

@Punches well said

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Punches You assume a lot but what do you actually know? Any sources to back your claims? If not, you are just transphobic, fearing judging hating and excusing such behaviour blaming someone for their personality.

Even if you could back these claims (which I seriously doubt) no matter what personality we have, extroverts, introverts, entertainers, that person who prefer to not go to parties or that person who loves partying, we all shiyld be equally respected!!

Punches · 46-50, F

@Queendragonfly Yeah you are right, I just do not know anything about the trans life.
I should probably have sources to back my claims instead of just being an outsider who has never experienced what trans people do.

I am not transphobic as you say though, rest assured of that.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Punches Do you know what counts as a transphobe because I do.

Punches · 46-50, F

@Queendragonfly I guess since I have never had to experience this "Transphobe" thing first hand, I should watch what I say.
And yeah, I will agree that you have extensive knowledge about many subjects.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Punches Thanks for listening. The irony of this is I at first didn't know I was advocating transphobe opinions either. But after I learned my mistake I decided to send the message forward as I noticed there are a large group of people who mean well and unintentionally harm trans people.