She "sorta" cheated on her boyfriend with a girl and apparently I'm "sort of responsible"

(Should've probably asked about this before asking for book recommendations. Anyway... KINDA LONG STORY, NEEDS PATIENCE TO READ)

So, Lady at work has a boyfriend, they've been together for years apparently.

Lady at work found out I like both men and women.

She asked me a bunch of self discovering questions. Pretty sure she was bicurious at that point so I told her how I learned about my sexuality and how I came to terms with it (Eldest daughter of an Asian household does not a very acceptable environment make) and dealt with family and society and all that. She said she's always thought of her self as straight and thanked me for sharing my story and then we went about our days working as corporate slaves.

AND THEN

I found out her and another coworker were being very sus and it turns out they've sort of been um... "exploring a new found friendship" by ways of less than platonic activities. Apparently, if they didn't label it, it doesn't count as cheating. Her boyfriend found out though and things went sideways. More than sideways, considering her sexuality also left the "straight as an arrow" path.

ANYWAY

She went "if you hadn't told me all those stuff, things wouldn't have gone this way".

SO MY QUESTION IS, HOW SHALL I DEAL WITH THIS? Shower me with some wisdom please. Thank you.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

You, as a bisexual, can't accept the blame for anyone else's actions.

I would put it that way to her about polyamory relationships as well. As I had been in one before. Not that it either myself or the other male were bisexual.

We just loved the same woman.

DeletedReality · 26-30, F

@DeWayfarer Thank you. I just don't know how to properly (and without sounding mad) tell her that hearing about my experiences did not in any way push her to do anything.

Oh wow, that's a refreshing and mature view on things. People in my area are very against anything they view as "out of the norm"

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@DeletedReality no different attitude about polyamory here. It's actually illegal in a court of law here. Where bisexual really isn't as long as no marriage is involved.

I'm totally against such religious based laws!

It's basically pushing religion in government which is also totally wrong.

Actually I consider their views as immoral, in my view point.

DeletedReality · 26-30, F

@DeWayfarer I definitely agree. They use religion to force others to conform.

Aside from the law relation, I also especially hate when they shove their religious views down my throat. I mean, I was a confused and questioning 14 year old when my religion teacher condemned me to hell. -_-

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@DeletedReality So sorry for the delay. I get distracted by subjects that I even know well. As is the case with the Zo'é of southern Brazil.

I was condemned to the endless void. Because...

" I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! 16 So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth."

It was because of my stance on the bible as a whole. Religion is actually the curse of humanity. For no where on this earth is there not such social brainwashing.

Not even in the deep jungles of Brazil with the polyamory tribe of the Zo'é.

Note the video YouTube series may have some nudity though it's not marked as such.

Text story I got interested in and the cause of my delay.

https://knappily.com/society/the-zo-living-in-the-bliss-of-isolation-829

[media=https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c7pDAspjFb0]

The christians are a serious threat to the very way of Zo'é social life! 😞

DeletedReality · 26-30, F

@DeWayfarer Whoa wait. This is so interesting! I guess I'm not sleeping tonight.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@DeletedReality take your time please! There is three separate videos on that link. You might need to look up the poster to see all three!

DeletedReality · 26-30, F

@DeWayfarer Also yeah, people should just leave well enough alone. I mean, why change an entire way of life?

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@DeletedReality the article is saying what christian are attempting to do regardless of the Brazilian government! It's makes me sickeningly mad! 😡

DeletedReality · 26-30, F

@DeWayfarer Yeah, for sure. Will be researching, reading, and watching all night cause once i find something very interesting, I get zero self control (an exaggeration yes, but that's beside the point). thanks for sharing this!

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@DeletedReality you're very welcome!

DeletedReality · 26-30, F

@DeWayfarer I don't believe anyone with any religion are all bad, but wow there are those who just don't believe in boundaries and differences in beliefs. I mean, I don't think that's the right "message" to spread.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@DeletedReality yet such missionary's are being pushed by powerful governments. As a means to control other cultures.

This is no different in any part of the world. South East Asia is no different than Africa which is no different than south America.

It's all a government push. Even pushed by the UN itself... United way is such an organization. Though they make no mention of religion outright. Only in the background do they push their religion.