The only way to find the person for me is to keep being open and own all of myself.

I know that being open from the beginning is the best way to start a relationship but it’s very annoying how when I tell women that I’m bi and that a recent ex was a guy that they don’t want to pursue a relationship with me. It makes me want to not say anything, I can’t do that though because I’ll know I’m not being honest and that’s basically ending the relationship before it starts. I want to be open about my life, but it’s just not accepted because of their fears or unwillingness to understand.

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hartfire

I think your policy of openness is definitely the right way to go.
Even though it will put some off, when you do find someone who accepts it (who might also be bi) you'll know you're off to a good start.
Ethics, personal hygiene and safety would also affect the choices.
Your social circle might also have an effect.

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Reflective · 36-40, M

I do for work. I plan on moving to a more progressive city at some point

hartfire

@Reflective Good to hear. I'd guess your work skills would be just as employable in those places. Being able to be who we really are and able to love whomever we love is crucial to creating a fulfilling life.

Reflective · 36-40, M

I’m starting to really understand that and I feel hopeful for what’s your come. I’ve never had this level of acceptance for my sexuality than I do now. It makes me so happy.

RebelFox · 36-40, F

If she’s open like you, she won’t care, she’ll be cool with it. I’d think it was sexy, but I’m secure and want my partner to be true to themselves. If they’re intimidated by that, you don’t want them anyway. Keep being you. Keep believing and it will.

Reflective · 36-40, M

I think your right. I need to get out of my head and just be, not try and manage what someone might like. Thanks for the encouraging words, I feel more hopeful now.

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