I am that married dresser. When I first came out my wife's reaction was "as long as I don't have to see you dressed that way". And so we carried on that way. However we agreed to have an anything goes dinner at least once a month where she could ask any questions and I would be 100% honest.
Anywah some months went by and at dinner, out of nowhere, she said that she. couldn't understand why she was was so against seeing me dressed and maybe we should try it. So zi went to the bedroom and slipped on a dress - I was already wearing panties. When I went back through her first reaction was she loved the dress. And then she added that I looked pretty good in it. I thanked her and said I had others she might like and next thing I was modelling all me femme clothes. Some she complimented, some she criticised. Some wrnt back in my wardrobe, some binned. Some were "acquired: by my wife as they were a bit too small / tight for me. And I acquired some skirts that were too big for my wife.
My wife then gave me some things she didn't want me to wear. No bras. no high heels, no make up, no wigs, no jewellery. Within a week she was recommending necklaces and bangles to go with dresses. It had already been established that being only 5ft she didn't want me to be towering over her, so I wear kitten heels. And then at dinner one night she looked across and told me "you should wear a bra with that dress". Recomends of lipstick, foundation, etc followed. Her only existing red line is wigs.
Since then she has become more comfortable and supportive of my dressing. We shop together and she is now of the opinion that I have better taste when it comes to clothes. She now borrows dresses from me.
And apart from that our sex life is better than it has ever been. Her rather restricted desires, interest in sex have largely disappeared. I just wish I'd come out many years ago.
