This is a long post.. what is on my mind…. It all started when I was 8 years old there was a Halloween party at school. My mom dress me up as a girl I remember wearing the blue dress, the white tights and the black wig. I got so many compliments from classmates and I just felt like I was free. I didn’t think nothing of it for years, but I always admired the girls for the colors. They wore the short shorts and skirts and just all the accessories, the necklaces, the jewelry, and how they express themselves through the make up in the many different styles, every girl had their own look I was in middle school about 12 years old and the new thing was leggings and I looked at the girls and it reminded me of how good the tights felt how soft and how they just moved with you and how they were tied up against your skin and when I was 16 I went out and started buying my own clothes and bring back how comfortable I was. I did not tell anybody about it. I was too ashamed, and as the years passed, I kind of went in spurts. I would dress for a little while and then I would stop because I was too embarrassed and if somebody found out. I don’t know how I will I would explain it i met a girl she we got married I did quit for a while but I ended up going back to cross dressing and it got to the point one day. I had to tell her so I did and she was upset rightfully so I knew I screwed up and I should’ve told her from the beginning, but it was something that I wasn’t sure how to tell her we were married for about six years and then we ended up getting a divorce. The cross dressing was not part of the reason she didn’t really like it but I did not push it around her either I did not want to push I know that would have not been right… I met another girl and I told her right away about it and I told her also that let me know if it’s something you can live with and if you can’t, I understand it’s not easy she thought about it and she told me that she wasn’t sure but then she started thinking about it and she said it was just clothing. It doesn’t change who you are. We were good for nine years one day she came up to me and she said she just didn’t love me anymore. OK it seemed kind of out of the blue deep down I feel she was a little jealous of the way I looked when I was dressed, which I told her don’t be, but I know I can say that, and it doesn’t change it… being a cross dresser is not always bad I feel good when I dress and love the way I look but when you wake up and all you want is to look pretty and wear that dress it can be hard because you know that you can’t that day it can stop you from doing things because you just want to be dressed up and it’s not an urge that just goes away. I’ve been through counseling and the counselor basically said that it’s just not gonna go away. It’s morning to you you just have to manage it or accept it which I’ve excepted it, I’m not sure if I know how to manage it yet and that is something I don’t know if I ever well I wish more people were excepting of it. If a girl is a tomboy it’s no big deal, but if a boy ‘s dress is like this people can be really judge mental all I can hope for is that people except me for who I am, and I hope to meet a girl someday that will just except both sides of me..
The dress looks good on you and I agree boys/men should be able to wear what they like. It is their body and their style they like. In my opinion crossdressing is just dressing. Wear what YOU like.
On the same line in a way both men and women dress to impress the ones they want to get the attention of. Sadly society has set the bar and way to many don’t even want to change any of it. Women started a woman’s movement and started wearing shorter dresses ( how scandalous) men have done some but are not as unified as women were. Hopefully things will change.
I don't understand the total dynamics of crossdressing. There are quite a few on here. I have actually tailored a crossdressers pants for him but i just want to address the shame.
you did the right thing by being honest. You have to live your authenticate life. Now, if you got into my clothes we might tangle but i am known to share
You raise another example of societies double standards. It is not fair and not nice, but we can only hope for a more accepting society someday in the future.
Relationships between a crossdresser and female partner can be really challenging for both parties. It's a mistake not to be upfront about it early on as she may feel deceived and resentful if it comes out later when the relationship has become long term. Some women simply will not tolerate this. Others have varying levels of acceptance. A few may actually embrace it with you, but that's the exceptional case.
@BizSuitStacy yes you are right.. and I understand it that most women don’t like a cross dresser I’m just hopeful there’s a girl out their that will except me i honestly don’t dress that much sometimes I would like to Dress more but life happens and my anxiety gets a little high sometimes because of it I try to find other ways to deal with it
@Shelly6395 I would venture there are more women who are accepting than people realize...it's just that acceptance comes in different forms. For example, she may be ok with giving you your space to dress up on your own, but doesn't want to participate. Or maybe she sees you dressed up, but doesn't want intimacy. A lot of CDs want the holy grail of a woman who is sexually aroused by it, and the pseudo lesbian relationship they fantasize about in their heads. It's not that it never happens, but it's rare.
@BizSuitStacy i would be happy with a girl that would go out with me dressed in occasion if she doesn’t want it in the bedroom I understand completely but if she excepts more that is up to her and what she feels comfortable with
just picking up this thread. I told my g/f about 6 years ago that I cross dressed. She was OK about it (as I hoped/expected, but was SO nervous). Today I dress when with her, but conservatively and never with make up. Its a good half way point that we are both comfortable with. And she knows I wear bra and knickers every day. So with her I am still her boy friend/partner (we spend a lot of time together, but have our own, separate, homes) but just in skirt, blouse, stocking and heels. &, of course, undies. She also knows I occasionally go for a make over but never asks about my life as a tgirl
you look great in femme mode! I came to dressing quite late, it became a very important part of me. I told my girl friend and she is accepting. but my femme persona is also very sexual, and I love meeting with other trannies. My favorite dress mode - smart tart!
