Fellow bi people:

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Yup, I experience that for sure.

Nope, I'm attracted to them equally all the time.

I honestly haven't paid attention that much.

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Do you find your attraction to one gender or another comes and goes in waves? Sometimes I'm super into women and then other times I find men really, really attractive.

Kind of like waves coming in and out or something, it's so bizarre. XD

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Scribbles · 36-40, F

I consider myself to be Bi.

I once heard someone phrase bi sexuality as being like one person...but having two sexual spirits in your body. I was able to relate to that a bit...and it helped me figure things out.

There is a spectrum for sure. And I think it's normal to swing one way or the other at times.

Certainly the things I find attractive in a partner in terms of personality and character have very little change from gender to gender. But physically it's different. And the way I behave and felt romantically felt unique depending on the gender of said person...

I have no idea if any of that made sense.

Orpheus · 56-60, M

I think desire or chemistry, or whatever is its own animal, and for me, it leads me wherever it wants to go...anytime. That desire is triggered by differing criteria in different people. i can look at a woman and be completely taken aback how hot she is, but that rarely happens with men. A man can just look at me a certain way and I am done for! Nothing to do with looks. However, on my own in self reflection, I do recognise periods of time when my thoughts are regularly occupied by one type or another, more or less exclusively.

likesnatural · 70-79, M

Interesting question. Does being bi mean having a physical attraction or wanting something? What we get from each choice is very compelling.

thepeculiarpanda · 36-40, M

@likesnatural I'd say more in the physical attraction sense in this case. :)

Also, sorry for the late reply! This year has been a doozy and I keep losing track of things haha.

JustGoneNow

I don’t consider myself Bi anymore but I once did, so if I could… I’d like to answer.

JustGoneNow

I’ve always felt that sexuality is a sliding scale and you can drift between each side. most of the people that I’ve known that were or are Bi (including myself if I ever truly was,) are never 50/50 and tend to one side or the other. And even that can change. I know I’m very Demi-Bi-romantic and can and have fallen romantically for a certain guy before but I’m pretty firmly homosexual, so I don’t really see guys like that. It’s really very complicated for me and I would assume many if not all people have aspects of all of that in different ways if they are truly being honest. Just my thoughts on it, my friend.

JustGoneNow

@thepeculiarpanda I don’t know if any of my ramblings even made any sense, as orientation and all of that is confusing.

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