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An experience of being assumed of being different sexualities (LGBTQ MATTERS)

For me, in NZ is hard to get the right words together since I’m in high school, But we have to go ALLLLL the way back from intermediate when I learnt about the basic sexualities from people harassing me (it sucks to be in intermediate in NZ trust me).

Now, I did not know what LGBTQ was in the first place. Until I noticed received backlash I’ve been given from dense people and social butterfly’s, I was still straight at the time I was being assumed of being gay. But in reality, I was just being the person God created (I’m a LGBTQ Christian).

There was this one boy I met and he kept on calling me “gay”? So it happened until the entire 2 terms end of year almost, and I can EXACTLY REMEMBER (I’m not kidding) the occurrence I had between him.

Him(in a girly voice to me verbally): “oh heyyy my adorable gaya**”

Me: “…I’m sorry?”

Him: “well you said so yourself your gay.”

Me: “when did I say that?!”

Him: “long time ago girl…”

Me: “don’t call me a girl please.”

And I don’t want to say names since I’m not exposing but I’m only mentioning the specific person. of course his name was Kyle, and until the next year he kept doing the same stuff to me which was quite annoying and boring but it kind of hit me hard since he did use it in suicidal situations of me experiencing trauma? (I never had a problem with trauma or any sorts) so I reported him quite a lot to teachers, BUT THEY WE’RE USELESS (sorta), but I reasoned with them and yet they still said I need a counsellor which I never wanted to, and I could only talk to my parents about my true feelings which made me gain emotional wounds and questioning on who I am in my own image instead of Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

Now that I’m in high school, I’ve changed quite a bit, but not Kyle and his other influenced friends (yes he was quite popular for some reason). Now I also had lots of friends and my academic was top notch (Except math sorry), but I also had the SAME FRICKIN EXPERIENCE AGAIN!! GRAAHH! (Sorry it’s a reasonable outrage), and yet again…I told my own teacher, and during a parent teacher interview or conference, I was in good hands. And my own teacher was the sweetest angel I could ever imagine!! And I was being the perfect little snitch, and told her everything with a calm and collected voice and frame. So, now in today’s episode I’m going through, here’s timelines of how I changed (just to give you a small heads up).

Straight(Primary) to Gay & Bisexual(Intermediate), Bisexual & Asexual(High school yr 9) to AroAce (all the way through still an AroAce)

In a summary, I’d just like to say that I’ve gone through worse than you think mentally. But please, if you have experienced this. I SERIOUSLY SYMPATHY YOU FOR GETTING ASSUMED AND HARASSED WITH BEING BI OR ANY SORTS OF LGBTQ RELATED CONSTANTLY!!! I care about the people around me A TON! So please share some snippets of an experience like mine, I at least want to know what people out there have experienced who are almost like me being assumed and harassed constantly. You don’t need to but it would mean the world to me if you’d share and I don’t judge, I support and respect everyone around me! Thank youuu!!!

(This is my first post by the way, yay!)
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KiwiDan · 31-35, M
Welcome fellow Kiwi :D

The world gets better once you're out of school. I don't know how old you are, but it sounds like you're near the end of college? Once you get to university, the world really opens up, and once you get into full-time work pretty much nobody cares (except those people who never grew up past year 8, but those people aren't worth caring about anyway).
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@1ntertwined being 16 generally is difficult. Do you have anyone mature to talk to around you? If not then SW might (maybe) be an ok place to do so. Where in NZ are you?
1ntertwined · 16-17
@KiwiDan I am in Auckland! But I usually keep my presence quiet although I sometimes do accidentally overshare.
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@1ntertwined I'm in Auckland too, funnily enough
Panamared · 70-79, M
Being a teen is difficult enough without being a bit different. But to be happy you must live your truth. People will judge you, no matter how you live. Be happy, be safe
1ntertwined · 16-17
@Panamared Aw, I’m glad to see a person like you share your words. Thanks for putting it out there!✌
First, welcome aboard!

I don’t have the experiences you have suffered, but I am deeply sorry you’ve had them.

On the other hand, while I don’t understand fully how hard it is on you, I am a 75 yr old woman and I’ve had a good many crummy man vs woman, sometimes even me vs traditional women. Everybody wants you to know your place, even before you know where that place truly is.

You sound like you’re handling it pretty well, and you sound intelligent. I hope you know that people who engage in bullying are frightened and insecure themselves. They think they’re taller when they’re standing on somebody else’s neck. They’re not. They’re just brutal and pathetic.

Hang in there. As you grow, you’ll find your own comfortable community, and more peace!
1ntertwined · 16-17
@Mamapolo2016 Hi hi! I am TRULY interested on your small picture that you shared (how you said many problematic man vs woman) which really sparked a bit of hope in my heart, I know it’s hard to fit in as a boy who is almost developed into more tough experiences, anyways enough about me! I’m glad I can somewhat relate to someone who is in a different age group than me, but thanks for the kind words you’ve brought and it’s a real blessing to slowly fix myself into a community that I’m comfortable in 🫶
@1ntertwined I may have accidentally misrepresented my circumstances. As I said, I’m 75 and the world I grew up in was remote and much less violent than it is now.

I was the first of six children to finish college, and lot of the neighborhood women thought and said that I was a show off, and ‘probably not a real woman.’ As I entered the business world, in 1973, men gave me a rough time. They believed, because nobody had told them differently. that touching and feeling was their right. It was really gross. I don’t think I was a showoff.

Eventually, things changed, but very slowly. I just kept my head up and my nose to the grindstone. Partly because of politics and partially because I deserved it, I became the first woman in management in that company, ever.
1ntertwined · 16-17
@Mamapolo2016 Wow, I’m speechless on the information you’ve given me, although I’ve got nothing else to say. It’s still nice to see a person sharing a bit about themself, but! Nice to meet you at least (P.S. you’re a lovely person! Even though I don’t know you).

 
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