Coming out

I am bi an maybe trans, and I want to come out to a few freinds. But I am afraid to because I don't want the word to accidentally get to my transphobic/homophobic parents. I trust the people I want to come out to but I am worried it might slip in a casual conversation. Any advice?

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22Michelle · 61-69, T

It's a decision only you can make, and once you are out you can't go back in. So, first thing, why do you feel you have to come out to some friends? I'm not suggesting you should remain in the closet, but why do you feel the need to come out to some friends. Hax the question been asked any ofthem, are you looking to have sex with any of them?

Shadow64 · 13-15, T

@22Michelle it is very uncomforable going through it alone, I want advice, and I also have a guy in my class that I like... 😉

22Michelle · 61-69, T

@Shadow64 so do you want to tell him that you find him attractive, or do you feel you have to come out to him and others first? I'd love to be able to givecsome words of encouragement, but without knowing the people you are thinking of coming out to it's impossible. Are these friends very open in their thinking, or are bigots, homophobes? Sadly there are still many of the latter around. However, if this person is really a friend then he should bd able to accept uou for being yourself, whether or not he returns your feelings.

SW-User

You have a choice, be yourself or be yourself except in the closet? Do you really want to stay in the closet?

Shadow64 · 13-15, T

@SW-User no but my parent will be very mad if they find out.

Activitykittens

Really, nobody needs to know who you have sex with

Unless you're having a relationship with the same sex, it's not going to be relevant

Your peers should be able to keep a secret about sexual identity. I mean how would it come up with your parents?

Re trans that's harder. Female to male you can get away with a lot as a fashion choice without altering your parents

Not so much male to female

Good luck

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