To all those who just don't get it!

*Scenerio for you* If a child was going into school as a boy (say 8 year old) let's call him Sam. Then say six months later he turned around and said he wanted to dress as a girl and be called Sarah. All his friends and peers have ONLY ever known him as Sam. Now you tell me how a school/ teachers then explain that to a classroom of 30+ children who are 7/8 years old? Then to a school of say 600 children who have 4/5 years olds in reception? WITHOUT causing confusion??? Love to hear how anyone here questioning my concerns, would tackle that situation to ensure EVERY child can FULLY understand how, why, Sam has changed!?

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HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

I just have to ask, why "WITHOUT causing confusion"? At the age you're describing, I was confused when a boy came over and said "I love you" because he wasn't my family member or friend and I had no idea about such things as romantic interest. Yet my confusion didn't cause any drama or harm later on.
Now to your question, I'm not a teacher or parent or social worker, but first of all I wouldn't accommodate EVERY child in the school to this fact, and for sure I would not announce anything with a microphone lol. I'd first of all have a talk with the family to see how they're taking it and their own needs and wishes. I'd say to the kids that one of their classmates, Sam, wasn't feeling comfortable with their name and gender and prefer to be Sarah. Then I'd explain that some people go through that, others are older, not necessarily children, and that for some people there are extra steps to get to know themselves better. I'd also add that in the furure they too might disvover that they are different from their peers in a way, but it's not bad and they should feel comfortable with change and respect others' differences too (not make fun of them or exclude them). And of course if they have any concerns they're free to talk to me (or the school psychologist, if any). That's all I think.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@HannibalAteMeOut also about the kindergarten kids that for some reason need to know about Sam: first of all kids of those ages (4 and 8) don't usually interact with each other at school unless they have siblings. But anyway at 4 a child cannot even tell what time it is. Pretty sure telling me that a random boy is now a girl at 4 would be a way easier concept to grasp lol.
Then at 8 I was learning about how Helen was cheating on her husband because someone gave an apple to a goddess. Talk about confusion lmao.
In seriousness, it's not that big of a deal.

Lanie78 · 41-45, F

@HannibalAteMeOut That would be a good approach. Well said. Sorry so many replies difficult to keep track at times.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@Lanie78 thank you