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Unrequited love... Advise please

Basically I fell for someone deeply 2 years ago, she was my classmate and a good friend too me. When I fell for her I was scared of her hating me so I tried to cut contact, but I couldn't as she would frequently approach me and even before that she idolized me. When she found out she was like "I'm honoured" but I won't accept, she outed me by asking me out as a "prank".

Getting to the point, I'm transitioning to college she is in my options, I can't see her as a "friend even after 2 and a half years and last time when she knew she was akward. What do I do?

I tried to "treat her like everyone else" but I'm very friendly, nice and bubbly almost to everyone but I just can't interact with her as a friend I'm scared to look her in the eyes even. I remember I tried to act cold and indifferent in the past, but cuz im bubbly and extroverted everybody noticed and asked unwanted questions at school.

My question is how do I treat her like a "friend" if I'm honest to everyone and very obvious as in I can't exactly hide things? + I'm attracted to her still so what to do?
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basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
Honestly?
If you can't get over her, you might need to have no contact with her for a while and try dating other people. If you're over her, you may be friends again. Who knows? Maybe then she'll be interested in more than friends. But it might not be the right time now and you torturing yourself won't make life easier for you.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@basilfawlty89

Thank you for you help 🤍

I did exactly just that.

But let me make this clear what you are saying is "find a replacement of her" untill you can see her as a friend.

Firstly this approach is flawed due to my disinterested in dating and relationships which I don't care about and I'm not looking for anybody. Secondly I dated people to fill that hole and no nothing happened and I still like her.

And thirdly I'm 16 not 6 I know that no means no I'm not actively pursuing her at all. SHE IS STRAIGHT ...SO NO WTF.
basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
@MilayaDetka161 ah...see I didn't know she's straight. That complicates matters. Unfortunately the odds of that working are low. Best to try to move on. I still say try no contact for a while.
MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F
@basilfawlty89

Yh but physically I can't avoid her so how + she will approach me cuz she nice like that lmao