What should one do if their parents are in denial about their sexuality?

I came out to my mum 2 years ago when I had a partner (same-sex), I was about 14.

At first I thought she was supportive, but she was just being tolerant at that time. Now she denies that I like women and says it's just a phase and I will "finally like boys".

I'm 16 now and have a good relationship with her.

What can I do when she says/ implies negative things about LGBTQ or says things like - " When you have a boyfriend..." Or "When you find a husband" or "You will find someone eventually".
The other day she said straight was normally and that shoked me.

Now I will just laugh it off usually but it makes me uncomfortable and being gay is a "hush" topic in my family so no I cannot just "talk to her about it, when she is trying to get me to believe I'm straight when the topic of my sexual preference comes up.

But she is not bad, she is supportive and loves me the same, it's just my sexuality creates some conflict on a familial ground and this makes me anxious and upset.

Had anyone had the same situation before?
How did you deal with it?

Help is always appreciated 🖤🪐🌿

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BlueVeins · 22-25

Sorry you have to put up with shit like this, the fact that grown adults aren't mature enough to accept their kids' sexuality is absurd and deeply hurtful. I'm not super qualified to answer, but my uninformed advice is to allow her to continue thinking it's just a phase or whatever until she can come to terms with the truth. She's probably anxious about her child not living the traditional life she's always imagined, and is using this delusion to cope with it. If all goes well, this anxiety will gradually subside as you live out your life as a gay person while still remaining the daughter that she loves, and she'll eventually feel comfortable enough to accept who you are.

That's by no means a guarantee though, and unfortunately social conservatism is an incredibly finicky problem that can't be reliably solved from the outside. But yeah, your situation reminds me a bit of my mom because she continues to view my atheism as a phase even though it's been something like six years and I'm a whole-ass adult. Not to say that that's comparable, all I'm sayin' is that that's the experience I'm drawing off of.

MilayaDetka161 · 18-21, F

@BlueVeins

Thank you 🖤

I'm glad you could give me some advice it means a lot to me.

Sadly, it does not seem that simple that she will "get use to it"as it is unlikely. Because in my opinion 2 years is a while to get "use to" the concept of ur child being gay and as far as I know she takes my dating preferences seriously.

But she initiates them conversation about marriage and kids, I mainly avoid the topic of being gay but u know it is bound to come up.

But your comparison seems interesting I will take that in mind it must be hard for u as well, but I'm glad you've made it as you are and tried to help!

Gn 🛸✨