My coming out experience

Hi everyone
So I came out as bissexual to my parents last year, and my mon just sort kind of asked me if I liked girls and even though I didn’t plan on telling her that soon I didn’t want to lie.
Fast forward a couple of months later and it’s like they don’t acknowledge my bisexuality, my mom has a hard time seeing this part of me because in her head I’m straight and anything other than that it’s ugly or sad. I think she just doesn’t want to deal with it honestly. I don’t try to hide it but it’s difficult to look at her the same.
And I don’t know what to do in this situation because it’s not like I can make her try to understand, so I just pretend that I am not hurting when everything she says makes me feel like she doesn’t love me whole.

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Sandcastler · 22-25, M

Whilst my parents are very good with this sort of thing, sometimes people just can't quite accept it. You should know that your being bisexual is perfectly normal and natural and you should explore that part of yourself. But also it is not your responsibility to convince your parents. I know it's hard for you, but if your parents really value their relationship with you, they will eventually come around. Don't let them get in your way!

claraclaremontdiaz · 18-21, F

@Sandcastler Thank you for saying that❤️ It’s hard not being able to do more but I get that it’s something that has to be done by them. I just really hope they value our relationship enough to make the effort to understanding this part of me.

Sandcastler · 22-25, M

@claraclaremontdiaz A lot of people (myself included) have trouble taking people seriously if they are younger than them. And I assume as your parents the effect is amplified towards you. But if you take your sexuality seriously they will too!

BlackPhillip · 31-35, M

I'll never come out to my parents. They would definitely cut me out of their lives. I want to be in their lives.

claraclaremontdiaz · 18-21, F

@BlackPhillip Meanwhile I never thought my parents would kick me out I understand what is like to feel as if you have to be ready to loose everything. I would definitely recommend to always put your safety first and if you’re not ready to come out to your parents, just know that there is a world out there with people that you can be yourself completely. If you need someone to talk to I’m here❤️

BlackPhillip · 31-35, M

@claraclaremontdiaz Thank you! I really appreciate that! 🙂

Onestarlitnight

Start bringing girlfriend's home for sleepovers.. sounds like she needs a reality check.

claraclaremontdiaz · 18-21, F

@Onestarlitnight I thought about that lol maybe one day I will thx ☺️ though

SW-User

Very sorry for the strained feelings towards her.
I am confident she still loves you. Whenever you can, assure her you will always be the same person and that you love her.
I do hope this situation improves for you soon

claraclaremontdiaz · 18-21, F

@SW-User I really needed to hear that, so I appreciate ❤️. Hope things get easier too. She’s a great mom but she has to try more.

SW-User

@claraclaremontdiaz Indeed, she needs to understand. Sometimes it's difficult for the older gen to see things differently. But they must.

DavidT8899 · 22-25, M

While Im not a fan of dishonesty per se,maybe it would have been better not to tell your parents at this time.Its not exactly a lie not to reveal an unasked-about truth!

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