Coming out to parents

How many of you here have come out to your parents? (directing this mainly to people around my age but others are welcome to answer) I kinda wanna come out to mine even though I don't have to but idk what to say and how to bring it up in conversation in the first place. What'd you say to your parents when you came out?

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HellsBelle · 36-40, F

"coming out" really needs to stop. you dont need to announce it or make it a big deal. relax and love who you want. when you get a partner just bring them around like any hetero couple would. dont tongue in front of your parents or be overtly sexual with your parter (same for hetero couples...its your parents...have class), and you'll be fine. think of it like this, some day you will move out. your parents opinion will matter literally zero. YOU have to live with YOU. so do what makes you happy without this looming "coming out"

natureboy3 · 18-21, M

@HellsBelle You make good points there, the idea of coming out is something that doesn't really need to be a big thing

SW-User

I never came out as such. My girlfriend has been my best friend since I was 7 and my parents knew her and loved her and accepted her as family. I support LGBTQ+ but it's not an important part of my identity. I love a
person and she just happens to be a girl like me. My parents would have been just the same had I loved a boy.

natureboy3 · 18-21, M

@SW-User That's nice that your parents accepted her as family. Being LGBTQ+ isn't really an important part of my identity either, don't think I really need to come out unless I end up being with a guy

SW-User

@natureboy3 I think that will make life simpler 🙂👍

Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

OKies so I am a parent.. and also have a fair bit of experience with teens who are gay/trans etc..

What I can say is that it's universally so that most young people worry the heck out of telling their parents.. some needlessly.. many worry their parents won't accept but they do..

It is also the case that some parents dont.. that's horribly sad..

Try to think realistically..are they likely to accept?

natureboy3 · 18-21, M

@Adaydreambeliever I think they would be accepting, but my dad's made a lot of homophobic "jokes" in the past which kinda puts me off

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natureboy3 · 18-21, M

@Nateisme If you know he's not straight then you should probably tell him how you feel, or just stay friends for now and tell him later

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natureboy3 · 18-21, M

@Nateisme If he doesn't want to be bf's or do things anymore that's fine, just stay friends. I have told friends I've had feelings for how I felt but I can't remember exactly what I said

Barefooter25 · 46-50, M

My ex g/f revealed to me a few weeks after we broke up that she was attracted to women and was gay. I fully supported her decision. Her parents took it a different way. Mom was upset but accepted it years later. From what I know, her dad still has trouble accepting she's a lesbian. To this day, she's one of my closest friends.

natureboy3 · 18-21, M

@Barefooter25 Shame that her dad still doesn't accept, most people are supportive of lgbt people nowadays.

Sidewinder · 36-40, M

I never came out to my parents and besides, my lifestyle is my business and I'm quite keen to keep it that way.

natureboy3 · 18-21, M

@Sidewinder To be honest, I don't think I'll come out to my parents unless I eventually get a boyfriend, if I end up with a girlfriend they won't need to know I'm bi

GivetheDevilHerDue · F

Finding the courage to be who and what you are in not easy, Surprisingly Dad was OK even supportive Mom is still crushed!

emerie

It just happened go with it

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