What is the importance of getting out of the closet?

This one is only for g(a)uys. Or not, if you feel like you can help me and want to answer the question, feel free to do as you wish. The thing is, a pass through a messy year lately, but one of the things that drove me crazy were my sexuality. Since past year when I felt in love with my college friends from now, I've passed through a whole odyssey of love and hate myself. I've realized things about my past, my present and my future, but especially about myself. And honestly, since then I started to getting used with my complexity and my sexuality. And now that I accept myself, I think I'm kinda ready to be accepted (or not) from the others. But honestly, i don't know if want to do it at all, cause I want to show to people that this part of myself is natural from me, and th wasn't one thing that I've suddenly realized or choose to be. So I think what I trying to say is, I don't want to make a big deal that will change the way people see me, but I know it will. But I just so tired of looking naive and asexual from the others perspective and I really want to beginning exploring my sexuality naturally and without fear. So I'm here to ask for you guys, what you think about the topic? Why it is important to gay people getting out of the closet, and should we do/don't??

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SW-User

Coming out is an individual thing. All that matters is whether or not you need it to feel comfortable. I identify as bisexual but I've never made an event of coming out to my family because they've always been very supportive of the LGBT community and nothing would change if I did. I feel comfortable exploring my sexuality without the explicit support of others. Some people have grown up feeling oppressed, or like they haven't been their truest selves, and they need that closure from family and friends. Knowing that they will be accepted with open arms (or not) is important to them when figuring out who to surround themselves with, so they're open about their sexuality. The act of saying, "This is what I am and I'm proud of it." is freeing to them.
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What I'm saying is[/b] - It's important historically due to the systematic oppression of and discrimination towards queer folk. But if you don't feel that it's necessary to be vocal about it, then don't. You have the choice. You don't have to come out unless it makes you feel more comfortable. You're blessed to live in a time and place where you don't necessarily have to hide.

Arthur14 · 26-30, M

@SW-User oh, you were pretty lucky, huh. Unfortunately, coming out to my family is going to be tricky. Even though they are a little more flexible on their religious beliefs (I like to think they are rebels), I've heard some conversations that they had with mine little brother (that is much more open minded than they). Even though they respect the queer folks and would still loving us in whatever "choice" we made, I know that deep down they would be disappointed or something like it. So much that, according to my father if some of us bring his boyfriend at home, he would beat both of us at his house. But I do have some friends that I think know that I am gay (shit, even my professor demonstrated signs to know it) that could help me out. Still, thanks a lot for the answer.