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Struggling, need help...

1.) I don't trust anyone and I never want to see these people

a. My dad (was never really a dad to me)
b. Old co-workers (stalking)(harassment)
c. Former friend (stealing)(lying)(stalking)
d. My brother(assault)(lying)(stalking)

2.) I have no where to go I tried leaving the state, they followed me. I've had to quit three jobs because they talk to the people I work with. I tried living/working at a hostel but they followed me there. I tried going to a homeless shelter they followed me there and I was getting death threats and shit which I really don't care, but they followed me there too.

3.) I try to workout at the gym and I get harassed. I tried going to the cops and they threw me into the fcking hospital. Everytime I leave the house people follow me around.

I don't want to live anymore and there's no one that I can go to for help. I don't talk to anyone one now because I think they are in on it. I've told my mom and a couple siblings about it and they all blew me off and made it seem like I was talking nonsense. I feel stuck and unable to enjoy the things I used to. If I go to the coffee shop or library I always see former coworkers. I want to press charges. But every time I call I get told to call someone else or that they'll get back to me and I never get called back. I don't currently have a phone because I've been out of work. I've been miserable for so long now and I don't know what to do.

Any tips or if you've had similar problems please let me know how you got over it.
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I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. It sounds incredibly tough and overwhelming. I believe you and want you to know you're not alone. Have you considered reaching out to organizations that specialize in supporting people who are experiencing harassment or stalking? They might be able to provide you with guidance and resources that can help. Some options include the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) or the National Center for Victims of Crime (1-855-484-2846).

I'm proud of you for taking steps to overcome all these things and I think you're definitely headed in the right direction, going to Bible studies and fellowshipping with those who will love and support you. Keep up the good work. God promises to help us through all these struggles and he always keeps his promises. I would still, however, seek counseling so you can have more support. They can better understand these things and know how to guide you gently. That's what God gives us these doctors for and I think it's important that we listen to them. They know ways to cope that we don't and I definitely think they are helpful.

He shall keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee. Isaiah 26:3

This verse tells us that it takes our cooperation and participation in keeping our hearts and minds in Christ, if we want that perfect peace that passes all understanding. It is achieved by deliberately choosing what we allow and give permission to come into our minds, because you know that devil is always wanting to make us depressed or anxious or think on negative things. But we are to train our mind in that moment, to switch our focus and keep our minds on Christ and keep it stayed on Him, as the verse says and that is what will produce perfect peace in our hearts and minds, as the Holy Spirit speaks to us and fills our heart with that peace that only He can give. That is the key.
Lostpoet · M
@LadyGrace Thank you for sharing that and there are councilors here. I have a hard time talking about stuff. But scripture study and prayer have made me feel better about myself and I'm getting ready to move forward in my life as a Christian of God.
@Lostpoet That is definitely very encouraging and I'm so so proud of you. I believe God gives us counselors and it's a blessing and privilege to have them and be able to go to for help. They have strategies and techniques that we don't even know about all the way and they're definitely here to help us and God uses them, and I praise God for that. I've had to go to them and there's nothing shameful about it. It's good that they keep things confidential and you can relax and speak your mind, and I believe God wants us to voice our hurts and traumatic experiences. In that way, we can release them in a healthy way. It's important to voice these things and get validation. We're not broken. We just need a different way to cope and counselors can help us do that. I hope you'll reconsider. One way to get our feelings out, is to speak about them. I believe God wants us to do that. There's nothing weak about that. God said he can make us strong again and when we release all those pent up negative feelings that are hurtful feelings, that's when we begin to heal, so I hope you won't deprive yourself of the blessing of counselors, that can really help us.
MikeHurts · 56-60, M
The dates are messing with me. :-)
But I now see that this is still active and apparently still an issue.

Let me ask you a question if this indeed still going on.

Do you play chess?
I hate the game myself but it is a game of strategy played in extreme confined area and with strict rules for each piece to be able to move.
I guess it's purpose is to show people that even when confined by very strict rules and limited resources there are ways to manipulate your control of any situation or place if you use and understand what is allowed and how to win.
Some people only need to know and understand the rules to any game in order to be able to win.

I say this because it looks like you have had a ruff go with the system in regards to receiving any assistance in dealing with this bad element that has been causing you discomfort.

I saw another person comment here and it got me thinking.
What would work best for you, to me, is to get into the the system as deeply as you can.
Get yourself a doctor and a psychiatrist and even a counselor.
First off these people have connections to healthcare, housing and even legal.

First you have to build up your forces and get them on your side and cheering for you.
Get involved with as much assistance as you can receive. You might even get into some of those support groups they sponsor at those free clinics for abused women and drug addicts.
For someone with limited resources this is a gold mine.

This would seem to be the best way to build a support system that is built on the premise that they are there to help.
After you establish a strong base then you begin to have clout by proxy.

That is all I have to offer. Sorry.
There are resources available but you have to make them help you. That sadly involves becoming a part of a system you may not think much of at this point but "the enemy of my enemy is my friend".
Carazaa · F
Apply for disability and see a doctor. If you have been abused or smoked weed, you might have schizophrenia with paranoia. Talk to a doctor and explain your situation. Try medication and apply for disability. Forgive them all and take care of yourself.
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Carazaa · F
@Lostpoet God promise "I will repay evil for evil"
Carazaa · F
@Lostpoet
Luke 21
16 You will be betrayed even by parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, and they will put some of you to death. 17 Everyone will hate you because of me. 18 But not a hair of your head will perish. 19 Stand firm, and you will win life.
markinkansas · 61-69, M
here #1 trust all people to be in there own self interest and you will not be disappointed
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markinkansas · 61-69, M
wear a recording device
gummybears · F
I don’t get it.. why would they do it.. it’s weird and kinda evil

I’ve never experienced anything like that and I don’t I don’t really know what to say.. but stay strong
Carazaa · F
So sorry that you have been stressed out, and people have bothered you. Fantastic that you exercise! You will be ok if you try to take good care of yourself and eat nutritionally and meditate. Lots of omega 3, and complete amino acids, and keep a nice and calm environment, and meditate. Try Dr wilsons auditory meditation online for an hr every day. That will help calm the nerves. I will pray for you too!
Carazaa · F
People are very self absorbed nowadays but if you are kind they will be kind too. I would love them all, regardless how they treat you. Only then can there be healing. Jesus wants us to love our enemies and pray for those who despitefully use us. I wouldn't worry about everyone. Try to take good care of yourself. Eat nutritionally and get good sleep. God will help and protect you. Don't worry! If we were mistreated as a child we can easily think everyone hates us and is out to get us, but they aren't. They are just not friendly.
Dabelletree909 · 26-30
still currently going through the same thing now for myself. i will never understand people like that . i do feel like there are people who get off of these things ,but the unknown disorder called narcissism is really at its all time high and neglect is never fun .
Wales · M
You can get a restraining order against an individual if you contact the police, but it seems you have already tried that. There are also ways to change your identity. People on high-profile juries can flee from their current location, assume a new name and whole new identity. You have left out details such as why these people keep coming after you. One way people stalk is on social media. Any accounts which show profiles of people known to you can be made private or deleted. Due to the Internet, people have unseen ways of tracking you in the states. My dream is to move to the United Kingdom and live in Cardiff, Wales. It seems like a much safer and friendlier place than anywhere in the states. The government uses tax money for good purposes like providing free medical care. European countries are known for providing social services to people who are treated far better than American citizens are treated by their own government.
Lostpoet · M
@Wales I don't want to change my name of move to a different country I like where I'm at and I did nothing to make it so I should have to move. I'm just tired of not being able to leave or go anywhere because I get messed with.

And I didn't do anything that would make alright for anyone to stalk me.
Iwillwait · M
@Lostpoet Who's stalking you?
Firechidist · 26-30, F
Sounds like to me you are being gangstalked. If that's the case congratulations because it means there's something beautiful and unique about you they hate. They are narcissists they will ruin your life. I'm dealing with narcissists and it's so hard. I've been dealing with a narcissist most of my life and I'm at a witsend on how to deal with it. Hang in there. Trusting God helps you go through it. I'm still waiting for God to vindicate me.
Iwillwait · M
I am sorry you're going through that.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
I always found a ball peen hammer worked really well for getting rid of unwanted people.
Now there is one problem with that. If you do end up actually having to use the hammer there may be a five to 15 year penalty for it. But that would give you a chance to make new friends. :-)
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Lostpoet You can always confront them calmly.
Don't do the hammer thing. You'll get a f***** up reputation for that.
When you see one of them following you just go up to them and ask them if they are. Then smile and say I have been seeing you around a lot. This will make note to them that they aren't as sneaky as they think.
Lostpoet · M
@Dainbramadge I did that they just denied it.
@Dainbramadge See, you are good at helping.
1) it's bad that you have to face it. But confront them about the fact that you don't want to keep in touch with them.

2) get married.

3) find a place where you can have easy access to work, gym and etc.

4) be strong.
Nebula · 41-45, F
Hey why are these people stalking you?
Lostpoet · M
@Carissimi I don't confront them i just leave and i don't know why they were following me around, but it's illegal and it wasn't funny it was actually pretty traumatic. And it's gone on for years.
Carissimi · F
I don’t see how they can follow you around when they have jobs and homes themselves. And not to ask them after all these years of following you, makes no sense to me. Ask them. @Lostpoet
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purplegold39 · 41-45, F
Hi. Please look up TARGETED INDIVIDUALS, GANG STALKING & CULTS. I'm going through this same thing.
Bertie · 46-50, F
Wow, 😟 this is terrible! Wish I could say something that would be helpful. I'm sorry you are going through this and hope they get tired and leave you alone! 😔 Peace ☮️
Funlov · M
There’s lots of doctors on here people with psychology degrees lol I’m sure they’ll have something to say I can help you🤔
YoMomma ·
Sorry i didn't know you were going through all that..
kablan69 · M
wow so sorry what a horrible situation i have a firend in a very sitauiton it uscks cuase i cant really do naything for him but be there aND TET IM THERE WHICH IS GREAT BUT ATR SMAE TIME I CANT DO MUCH OF ANYTHING FOR HIM LIKE HE CANT DO MUCH FEEL SO BAD FOR YOU I HOPE SOMETHING CHANGES GOOD LUCK
Legal action. Even if you just threaten them, you can get rid of 90 % of such ppl.
Lostpoet · M
@MissAnonymous I've tried legal action the cops don't do shit.
HumanEarth · F
Boy I can freaking relate to a lot of what your saying, especially my dad, My sister and my brother

Co workers not so much, I pretty much get into a fist fights with them.if need be.

Family thats another question, I can't just beat them up.

In my early years life was really bad, so bad I even thought about suicide.

So yeah, I UNDERSTAND

Maybe the shit they put me though is the reason I crossdress.
Lostpoet · M
@HumanEarth It's good to know that people can relate. The whole co-worker thing it's just they were recording me and following me around and I was running away. They weren't doing it out of maliciousness, but still being followed around and not knowing when or if someone is just going to show up is stressful. And when I went to the cops I shouldn't have been treated like I have been and people have continued to mess with me and they are able to because the cops won't do anything.
HumanEarth · F
@Lostpoet I did have this one thing with one co worker like decades ago.

They took a folklift and put my car on the roof.

I went to jail for this, but he lost his job.

I found him in the parking lot and I beat the living hell out him. I was so mad that I blackout and don't remember attacking him.

When I came out of the blackout, 4 people were pulling me off of him.

I don't know if he went to hospital or not that day, because I went to jail for 3 weeks for it.

But I never seen the dude again and he never showed up for court. So the battery charge was dropped
SW-User
That’s terrible but stay strong. Karma will get them one day. I’m sure they will leave you alone if they have a damn life. I don’t understand stalkers. They are the worst people on earth.
Lostpoet · M
@SW-User This has been going on for years now.
SW-User
@Lostpoet take care of yourself and try to ignore those mfs
SW-User
Hey man I’ve known you for awhile shoot me a dm I can offer some thoughts. I’m sorry you’re dealing w this

 
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