I Hate Scams

i lent big amount of money to someone, trusted and cared about that person so much, trusted their judgement, turns out that person was scammed. i feel that it's more than the amount of money, i am strugling to overcome the shock and trust issue that comes afterwards. i feel that i need to be supportive and understanding while also recovering from the fact. i got all mixed up feeling and i just want to let it all out here anonymously because i cant tell my friends nor family. i am still upset. i need help but i dont know what kind of help im actually needing. writing this out helps.

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jackson55 · M

Lending money to friends is a sure way for the friendship to end.

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Qveenve · 22-25, F

@jackson55 agree. i really should be stronger..

jackson55 · M

[@ Just say NO! If the friendship depends on money then it's no friendship at all.

Qveenve · 22-25, F

@jackson55 please dont yell at me im scared now 😅 got it, i really need to learn to say no, like a yes man

HermannFegelein · 26-30, M

I joined Amway when I was 18.....i was a fool. Of course i quit 8 hours after i joined. My dad was proud of me. Amway had so many people my age manipulated.

Qveenve · 22-25, F

@HermannFegelein my good thoughts with you. any tips on dealing with such manipulation?

HermannFegelein · 26-30, M

@Qveenve Trust yourself more. Nobody can truly know whats best for you. People can advise and thats okay but just take it with a grain of salt. Trust your gut. My Amway "boss" was angry when i quit but fuck him. 2 random dudes approaching me at a shopping center asking me to join should've been enough evidence to feel untrusting of them. They said i could be my own boss but it was BS. Adjusting prices and selling their overly priced products ain't being my own boss. That's manipulation.

Qveenve · 22-25, F

@HermannFegelein its enlightening to learn from what youve been through, thank you for sharing. yes i need to stand my ground

awhitedot · 46-50, M

Never lend money expecting to ever get it back. Consider it a gift.

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Qveenve · 22-25, F

@firefall thank you, i think i just need time, it just happened a while ago (funny enough, posting here is how i cope with the shock)

firefall · 61-69, M

@Qveenve that makes sense, you need to be able to express the hurt somehow, and you dont want to lose the friend

Qveenve · 22-25, F

@firefall felt supported and actually feel better already, thanks everyone in SW

bobby1975 · F

How much is a big amount of money?

Qveenve · 22-25, F

@bobby1975 i know its relative, when i step back i can actually recover, its just i might not be able to pay room rent. so im also the one at fault here.

bobby1975 · F

@Qveenve That is a significant amount. Get help form family if you need.

Qveenve · 22-25, F

@bobby1975 this is a good advice.. yes i suppose for now ill try to recover the amount by extra work, i believe i should ask for help from family if i feel ill hit a wall

antoniotomato · 31-35, M

People can't be trusted

Qveenve · 22-25, F

@antoniotomato thats what bummed me.. i thought this one person can be trusted, but maybe their judgement was impaired at the time (mine's too)

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