I think I've finally desensitized to the complaints of others

Everybody is angry and outraged about everything all the time, even tv and videogames. I think if someone's biggest problem is the casting decisions of a movie director, Twitter, or JK Rowling then they're living an incredibly privilaged life.

I don't know where this puritanical attitude comes from, but I imagine it's a sort of learned narcissism due to social media being a part of life now. Everyone wants to cancel eachother, people engage in mob stalking and bully mentalities whilst patting themselves on the back publiclly saying "look how moral I am". It just reeks of a lack of self awareness and character to me.

It seems like humility is a lost concept to many today.

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Gangstress · 41-45, F

Its like all this world cup bullshit. Everyones in uproar about it. Ok great but essentially what are they doing. Just pissing themselves off.
Qatar is a muslim country. Muslims dont like gays. I knew this as a fucking child but today all the gays be like boycott qatar..
They say about human rights.
They say about the deaths
Yet here they are sat in their privilege doing fuck all except for typing on social media.
I wrote a very heavy worded letter to the mp asking why the gov and FA haven't put in measures to support their supporters. This was 4 years ago yet 4 years later people banging on about the same shit

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@Gangstress exactly, during the heatwave last year I didn't make a virtue signaling post about it, I wrote my MP about the need for precautionary infrastructure to deal with the changing climate. No response obviously.

Gangstress · 41-45, F

@Ryannnnnn yeh i always get a response but its generic like thank you for writing in we have noted your grievance lol

EatTheRichUSA · 22-25, M

I couldn’t agree more. Whenever i hear someone going on and on about something that doesn’t matter, that doesn’t effect them in any way, I just tell them “People are dying. Get over it.”

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@EatTheRichUSA yup. I've worked with people who were slaves, watched people die and were shot in the head and lived, they were the most hard working positive kind people you could meet.

Yet some privaliged 18 year old whos parents paid for them to go to university who used to live in a big house with food on the table is abusive to others and complains because they're apparently a "victim" of "society" or whatever else they can think of.

EatTheRichUSA · 22-25, M

i@Ryannnnnn I work every day and barely afford living. Yet somebody on this site always has something to say about my work ethic.

SW-User

Good commentary.
It's like people see themselves as some kind of victim now. Almost like they enjoy feeling victimized, poor me. Anyone who has offended or hurt them is some kind of villian or monster. Humility is almost non existent. Why does it seem like this attitude that others must cater to me and my feelings always. Is it part of the whole woke thing?

But then also there's the martry attitude. I did this amazing thing, pat me on the back.

I think you are right on about some sort of learned narcissism through social media culture. I've read articles on this exact thing that confirm.

Social media culture has really flecked us up.

pianoplayingsteve · 31-35, M

Someone decided to take offense over some disagreement with me here so made a report and so SW has trawled through my entire post history to penalise me for things vaguely ‘offensive/inappropriate’ with no definition as to what constitutes those things. It’s got me penalised until next February and yet I’ve never acted hostile toward anyone. Something considered offensive to one person will be considered normal to the next person. And yeah being outraged gives a false sense of superiority to otherwise mediocre people.

You’ve said all this well, I will build on your second paragraph slightly. It isn’t just that people want to do this stuff, it’s that the very terms used that is meant to reduce bullying etc actually encourage it. Many people know how to paint others as engaging in some vague hate speech or something like that. And they will then convince themselves and others that it is now okay to dehumanise that person to a level way greater than the offense this person was meant to have caused.
They get ever more extreme with what they get outraged at, knowing that the type of people who will finally stand up to them are polite, reasonable people who they know will just put up with them being nasty people. They love this whole ‘you have to use fascist tactics to beat fascists, and anyone I don’t like is a fascist’ concept. It seems almost as if these terms and ways of thinking have been introduced into the zeitgeist to intentionally cause difficulties in having much needed dialogue. As I’ve seen much greater mutual respect and understanding in places that are pro free speech. A little bit of them knowing that deep down their ideas cannot stand scrutiny in the free market place of ideas.

I also find it absolutely insane to have the logic of ‘we have to censor speech to prevent ‘extremism’’. That’s such a ridiculous idea. If you censor certain voices from public discourse, they will retreat into echo chambers where the more radical elements of their side will push for more and more extreme views which will go unchecked by an opposing opinion. These groups then have no way to air how they feel with opposing groups and so turn to violence. I find that if you respect a person’s right to an opinion, respecting that person as a person naturally follows. And I find that if you allow free exchanges of ideas, people will find common ground and bond on that common ground.

There really does seem to be some intentional nefarious motive somewhere in all of these speech restriction ideas. I just honestly can’t imagine coming out of school/college/university where it’s championed to explore new ideas and thinking ‘we should censor like this. It seems counter to common sense. As I say, the truth doesn’t fear investigation.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@pianoplayingsteve I think the issue is people who are unaware of their own shadows and resentment are told by the current culture they are righteous and can do no wrong, reenforcing their own worst aspects in a rewarding and toxic way.

Thus you have activists willing to ruin people's lives and you can tell they're terrible people when you see them openly mock and laugh at these people when they're suffering as a result.

You have people who claim to stand for good yet merely wear the guise of it whilst being gratified for their awful actions. So you have good being used for evil, and that's as evil as it gets. The problem being it's ignored in the name of compassion, and that compassion is levied as social pressure so nobody wants to say anything lest they be painted as being against the ideal in itself.

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