I always thought/was made to think that I was a quitter. I took tap/ballet as a kid because I wanted the trophy. Got the trophy after a year...quit.

Wanted to play Für Elise on the piano. Played four years, aced Für Elise...quit.

Outside hitter in varsity volleyball..went to state, got a badass B. Gay letter jacket out of the deal...quit.

Went to junior college for journalism before reading up on the unaliving rates for newspaper journalists, was going to parlay my basics credits to a 4 year school...quit, deciding to work my way up in whatever job I got. Did that. House paid off 70% in 5 years off a call center salary, no student debt.

Camp Gladiator: woke up before 5am to get there by 6..worked out till 7am..slept a few hours..worked till 1am..only 300+ lb person out there...quit after 7 months, still lost 92 lbs my way.

Idk man, I just don't see myself as a quitter anymore. Just bc my sister has a PhD in nursing, climbs waterfalls in Costa Rica for fun, runs marathons, became a tenured professor at 34...brother is a petroleum engineer with a beautiful family, etc...

...Does NOT mean that I didn't achieve EXACTLY what I had my eyes set on. I am reframing that view of myself now.

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MrNightSky · 46-50, M

I like that! Its a great perspective to have.

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@MrNightSky thank you so much..it has taken me yearsss to come to this conclusion, after weaning myself from that toxic environment.

MrNightSky · 46-50, M

@foldedunfolding did you ever hear of the term "scanner"? Its a type of person that likes jumping around to different goals, careers, hobbies, etc. Im definitely one and you sound to me like you may be one as well. I read a book about it and I thought it was really eye-opening.

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@MrNightSky nice..have never heard the term, but it fits nicely! I am the same way with people groups. I flit, yet remain a loner. Have the book name by chance?

MrNightSky · 46-50, M

@foldedunfolding yep its called "refuse to choose" by Barbara Sher. Let .e know if you read it, id be interested in hearing what you think of it

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@MrNightSky Thank you for this! i think this is a bigger conversation that more people need to have..that it is not a CHARACTER flaw to be a scanner, to DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO, and that the blackest of sheep often become the G.O.A.T.

MrNightSky · 46-50, M

@foldedunfolding agreed!