Don't want to hear you complain about your abusive relationship if you're going back to the trash the very next day

In spite of having plenty of options, but they are "hard"..



It's written right there!!! If you don't have options, I am obviously not talking about someone who is in your position. And you should not be taking what I say as about YOU specifically.

I deal with enough as it is. I don't need more to tend to.

Ouch. It can be very confusing and difficult to break out of abuse. You never know what puts someone in that mindset, you don't know what they aren't telling you. I hid mine from everyone. I was scared, confused. Not saying it deserves to be coddled, but I will always have empathy for people stuck in abuse. I know how it feels and the more people that ditch you, the more you cling to the toxicity.

From my own experience it can take years to break out of an abusive relationship, losing friends during that time seems to be inevitable. It's like being addicted and one cannot break the bad habit before they are motivated/not having any hopes no longer for it to turn into a more healthy relationship, then next go through the fight with your abuser and keep up the motivation to change the situation. It did a difference for me to have a support system when I was ready for that change in my life tho. Meanwhile I guess I was a burden to others, including myself. Blaming myself afterwards for even getting into such a situation is the prize I have won for life.

One of the worst things about it is the fact that others say stuff like this to you while you struggle to break free. It makes you feel useless and powerless enough dealing with the slow erosion of your self worth in the relationship. Then you become silent around others as you can't just pull up your socks and follow their flippant advice. It's very easy to say, and incredibly hard to do. It took me many years to leave, and I thank those people who didn't give up on me even when I had given up on myself. You don't know the kind of manipulation and psychological games that people are put through in these situations. I hope you never go through anything like that, and I will always be there for people who do.

I've been there, before I was in that situation I couldn't understand why women didn't just leave but these men are brilliant at isolating you from friends and family and breaking you down till you are a shadow of your former self.

This results in a situation that you can no longer see a way out of, they make you completely emotionally dependent on them, breaking free can be hellishly difficult.

Sadly the most dangerous time for a woman in a domestic violence situation is when they try and leave their partners, within the 3 months after a break up you are more likely to be murdered by your ex partner than at any other time.

Some men are bastards.

It's not always as simple as that . Our choices for partners goes back to our caregivers and how we were treated as children. It's ingrained in us . Realizing this is the first step to making better choices but it's not simple as that ..everyone's circumstances are different too ...

There are a couple I read here and stopped replying to for that very reason.
They've been given good advice from dozens yet continue posting the same whining. It's like they expect someone else is going to fix their misery.

There are alot of abusers out there