Don't want to hear you complain about your abusive relationship if you're going back to the trash the very next day

In spite of having plenty of options, but they are "hard"..Lying to yourself over and over again and choosing familiar misery. You don't have to be my problem. It is a waste of my empathy and energy.

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AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

I've been there, before I was in that situation I couldn't understand why women didn't just leave but these men are brilliant at isolating you from friends and family and breaking you down till you are a shadow of your former self.

This results in a situation that you can no longer see a way out of, they make you completely emotionally dependent on them, breaking free can be hellishly difficult.

Sadly the most dangerous time for a woman in a domestic violence situation is when they try and leave their partners, within the 3 months after a break up you are more likely to be murdered by your ex partner than at any other time.

Some men are bastards.

SUPERVlXEN · F

@AntisocialTroll
The same goes for same sex relationships.

AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

@SUPERVlXEN Agreed, the only difference is you have a slightly better chance at fighting back when your life depends on it if it's woman on woman.

I tend to think in the terms of men abusing women as it's more common and it's what happened to me but there are plenty of women who abuse their men too.

My ex was 6'2'' and built like a tank, I'm 4'9'' it was never an equal contest.

Miram · 31-35, F

@AntisocialTroll

Yeah, no. I am talking about specific situation where people do have options but they choose to waste my resources that should be spent elsewhere where it wouldn't be discarded every time.

I am not some limitless divine well. I have my own limits and I don't want to waste my life on people who have adopted the role of the victim and are simply unwilling to make efforts. Not every person who reached out is actually going to try their best to leave and are powerless and have no choices.

I think by over-focusing on powerlessness plenty , unfortunately, get enabled to be passive who aren't actually powerless.

We all had our stories.

SUPERVlXEN · F

@AntisocialTroll
Agreed to the physical aspect. There can be more than the physical violence at stake in a break away, even when physically there can be difference in the power we possess, opposite sex as same sex relationships.