When's the last time someone did some effective match making on here?

@HijabaDabbaDoo You're both irresponsible

@HijabaDabbaDoo Okay, but who's the kid?

@ostfuidctyvm and she was being generous with even those 3

@ostfuidctyvm I thought I was being romantic with those three hairs. I’ve even offered to braid them 😟

@Miram that's disappointing. It's a shame seeing good natured people be susceptible to dynamics that fulfil an insecurity.
I wholeheartedly hear where you're coming from. I can't speak for her but I can certainly avoid interacting with predators. Thanks for flagging this up.

@HijabaDabbaDoo

Good-natured or bad-natured.. that is not up to me to decide.

I am going to refrain from saying more because I already understand I have put you in a difficult position by mentioning this. And it isn't just her involved here. It is a majority-behavior. This is the norm. Normalization is the norm in SW for variety of reasons.

You're well read. In most classic literature, philosophical and in social sciences, when the majority are destructive, there is only one way an individual can save themselves.

I think you're familiar with what is. So ultimately mentioning the issue here isn't necessarily productive and it doesn't bring about balance or change. It is just my reaction towards the overall helplessness.

Thanks for listening despite of that.

@Miram Social media by nature, SW included is all transactional. Every conversation is a request, both explicitly and implicitly. To be heard, understood or to influence. This is heightened on websites like this because people come here specifically to be seen and liked.

You're right, mentioning it won't bring about balance or change. Still, it helps to know who to look out for for the people that care to preserve a safer space. As for the people in between that normalise, as awkward and as difficult as those conversations are, I'll have them.

I respect your choice to withdraw after being burned out and after trying. Sitting with the discomfort of someone you consider a friend making choices that enable behaviour that don't align with your morals is something I handle more delicately than someone who makes the choice to engage in that said behaviour. One is swift, the other is a shift that takes time

@mindstruggle wait am I the match or I’m doing the match making?

@itsok
You do the matchmaking. I remember you did it before? Through usernames?

@mindstruggle ohh yea I did

@Degbeme we all have our hobbies