When's the last time someone did some effective match making on here?

@Miram Predatory behaviours from who?

@HijabaDabbaDoo

Like degme over there for example, who used to love commenting and hearting child S threads ..but somehow everyone acts like he is harmless.

Validation over all else. That's what matters here.

@Miram and she's fully aware of this? This is the first I've heard of this. I'm glad you mentioned it

@HijabaDabbaDoo

She was fully aware of several. I got burned out from reaching out to her only to find her interacting with them. One who directly admitted to s§xl asault.

I resent the fact that people made me believe they care. They don't.

This place is traumatizing and so are the people in it.

@Miram that's disappointing. It's a shame seeing good natured people be susceptible to dynamics that fulfil an insecurity.
I wholeheartedly hear where you're coming from. I can't speak for her but I can certainly avoid interacting with predators. Thanks for flagging this up.

@HijabaDabbaDoo

Good-natured or bad-natured.. that is not up to me to decide.

I am going to refrain from saying more because I already understand I have put you in a difficult position by mentioning this. And it isn't just her involved here. It is a majority-behavior. This is the norm. Normalization is the norm in SW for variety of reasons.

You're well read. In most classic literature, philosophical and in social sciences, when the majority are destructive, there is only one way an individual can save themselves.

I think you're familiar with what is. So ultimately mentioning the issue here isn't necessarily productive and it doesn't bring about balance or change. It is just my reaction towards the overall helplessness.

Thanks for listening despite of that.

@Miram Social media by nature, SW included is all transactional. Every conversation is a request, both explicitly and implicitly. To be heard, understood or to influence. This is heightened on websites like this because people come here specifically to be seen and liked.

You're right, mentioning it won't bring about balance or change. Still, it helps to know who to look out for for the people that care to preserve a safer space. As for the people in between that normalise, as awkward and as difficult as those conversations are, I'll have them.

I respect your choice to withdraw after being burned out and after trying. Sitting with the discomfort of someone you consider a friend making choices that enable behaviour that don't align with your morals is something I handle more delicately than someone who makes the choice to engage in that said behaviour. One is swift, the other is a shift that takes time