Why men on SW be like "you're such a sweet and beautiful woman any man would be lucky to have you, now can you help me with my fetish"?
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Imagine the young cock bird learning to impress and attract a hen. In almost all species, it takes the cock a long time to learn how to build the right bower or nest, or find the right territory with good conditions for rearing young, or develop the best song or dance routine, or bring the best gifts of food.
Similarly, human males are often very silly when it comes to courtship and mating strategies. It takes them a long time to learn.
As they mature, they learn that women do not want to be [i]used[/i] to help them with their fantasies - ie nothing in return by way of mutual satisfaction.
Men can satisfy themselves perfectly well alone.
There is a short supply of women who only want casual satisfaction; and a relatively short supply of those who only want affairs.
The majority of women want a whole relationship - possibly with children and commitment thrown in.
It takes many men until they're 25-30 or older to prefer the reciprocity of real relationships. And even then, many will want an bit extra on the side.
Worse, anonymous sites online give men the idea that they might be able to get away with using their prefered type as a sex object.
Not made easier by the fact that a very small number of women want the same.
The sleaziest men will target almost any female (or gay or trans if that's their thing)
unless the profile makes a blatant declaration,
e.g., "If you want help to jerk off, go somewhere else."
Some say it with much stronger words, but that's the essence of it.
Other things that help keep them away:
don't have a sexually suggestive username or avatar;
don't flirt;
don't post suggestive photos or words via your profile page;
don't discuss topics in a way that suggests being open and available;
don't accept friends with suggestive names and avatars - they appear on your friends list.
It's also possible to use repulsive strategies.
E.g. you love eating loads of garlic.
You can't be bothered washing your clothes.
You love having your guard-trained Marema or Rottweiler sleeping in your bed with you, etc.
Similarly, human males are often very silly when it comes to courtship and mating strategies. It takes them a long time to learn.
As they mature, they learn that women do not want to be [i]used[/i] to help them with their fantasies - ie nothing in return by way of mutual satisfaction.
Men can satisfy themselves perfectly well alone.
There is a short supply of women who only want casual satisfaction; and a relatively short supply of those who only want affairs.
The majority of women want a whole relationship - possibly with children and commitment thrown in.
It takes many men until they're 25-30 or older to prefer the reciprocity of real relationships. And even then, many will want an bit extra on the side.
Worse, anonymous sites online give men the idea that they might be able to get away with using their prefered type as a sex object.
Not made easier by the fact that a very small number of women want the same.
The sleaziest men will target almost any female (or gay or trans if that's their thing)
unless the profile makes a blatant declaration,
e.g., "If you want help to jerk off, go somewhere else."
Some say it with much stronger words, but that's the essence of it.
Other things that help keep them away:
don't have a sexually suggestive username or avatar;
don't flirt;
don't post suggestive photos or words via your profile page;
don't discuss topics in a way that suggests being open and available;
don't accept friends with suggestive names and avatars - they appear on your friends list.
It's also possible to use repulsive strategies.
E.g. you love eating loads of garlic.
You can't be bothered washing your clothes.
You love having your guard-trained Marema or Rottweiler sleeping in your bed with you, etc.
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thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M
@bijouxbroussard I really wish this is not a comment that is found often, all I can say.