Caraxes · 41-45, M
I think it’s been a problem most of my life is that I don’t know who I am and I don’t really understand what I want.
I will tell you I was broken after the failure of my marriage but I believe I was broken before that and that helped my marriage fail.
Anyway I don’t even know where to start to try and figure out those questions 👀😩
I will tell you I was broken after the failure of my marriage but I believe I was broken before that and that helped my marriage fail.
Anyway I don’t even know where to start to try and figure out those questions 👀😩
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Caraxes · 41-45, M
@Mellowgirl the marriage is a long complicated and probably boring thing for a public chat like this 😂 I truly think my lack of perceived identity played a role in the breakdown in my marriage along with a shit ton of other things.
I have two close friendship groups. One is fab and love being around them the other is toxic for me and for whatever reason I’m drawn towards them, I think to find my identity one of the things I would need to do is to walk away from the toxic friendship group 🤔
I have two close friendship groups. One is fab and love being around them the other is toxic for me and for whatever reason I’m drawn towards them, I think to find my identity one of the things I would need to do is to walk away from the toxic friendship group 🤔
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Caraxes as toxic as that friendship group may be, the fact you can see they're not great there's something still keeping you.
So perhaps you could address what keeps you going back...
Maybe they are a reflection of your complex psyche...
I don't want to say keep them in your life or get rid of them but maybe once you understand what the pull is to them you can work on replacing it with something and some healthier people.
Good luck to you... I hope I helped a little
So perhaps you could address what keeps you going back...
Maybe they are a reflection of your complex psyche...
I don't want to say keep them in your life or get rid of them but maybe once you understand what the pull is to them you can work on replacing it with something and some healthier people.
Good luck to you... I hope I helped a little
Caraxes · 41-45, M
@Mellowgirl thank you appreciate the advice 😊
StayAtHomeMom · 36-40, F
I don't know if I will ever figure that out
CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M
I know who I am, but I hide it. An ex-lover described me as "onion-like": no matter how many layers she peeled off, she couldn't get to my heart.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@CharlesRomsey that's deep... Really deep.
I hope you since been able to let someone else know you deeply
I hope you since been able to let someone else know you deeply
CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M
@Mellowgirl I haven't met them yet: I'm looking forward to it.
Mindful · 56-60, F
Yes,yes and yes. There isn’t a time when I don’t find myself humbled by life, and I am surprised by knowledge and my reaction to truth xand discover. I know what I know, I discover what I don’t.
exchrist · 31-35
I'll never be who I should have been I know that. I know my identity according to the government. I'm still figuring out who I am and want to be. Immortality is challenging
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Zero is an additive identity:
a + 0 = a
One is a multiplicative identity:
a * 1 = a
The zero matrix O (matrix of all zeros) is an additive identity:
A + O = A
The identity matrix I (capital letter I = square matrix that is one on the diagonal and zero elsewhere) is a multiplicative identity for square matrices A.
A * I = A = I * A
The identity function f is one where f(x) = x.
a + 0 = a
One is a multiplicative identity:
a * 1 = a
The zero matrix O (matrix of all zeros) is an additive identity:
A + O = A
The identity matrix I (capital letter I = square matrix that is one on the diagonal and zero elsewhere) is a multiplicative identity for square matrices A.
A * I = A = I * A
The identity function f is one where f(x) = x.
Ingwe · F
I have a grip on the being that I am
Vector · 41-45, M
This might sound silly or weird, but some people, even online seem to figure me out better than myself at times! the way I chat/type? Not sure what it is!
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Vector I suppose if you're being authentic you will find others that like and gravitate to you
Vector · 41-45, M
@Mellowgirl Yes I do try to be authentic. Might not win me a popularity contest :) but it need not!

SW-User
I know exactly who I am
Doesn’t mean I’ve never felt lost or had to overcome struggles etc
I go through painful heartbreaks like most
It’s brutal & shows no mercy
Still I push through it with determination & will power
After the storm has past I realise I’m stronger than I ever thought possible
This is something I have now learned to overcome & adapt to
Helping others works wonders
To a degree lol 😘
Doesn’t mean I’ve never felt lost or had to overcome struggles etc
I go through painful heartbreaks like most
It’s brutal & shows no mercy
Still I push through it with determination & will power
After the storm has past I realise I’m stronger than I ever thought possible
This is something I have now learned to overcome & adapt to
Helping others works wonders
To a degree lol 😘
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@SW-User thank you for sharing this...
It's nice to know that you have that inner strength.
Sometimes it gets a little dark and hard to keep going.
But I do think a strong sense of self helps.
It's nice to know that you have that inner strength.
Sometimes it gets a little dark and hard to keep going.
But I do think a strong sense of self helps.

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Stereoguy Well being a good friend might be part of it... 😊
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