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Just A Thought On Femininity.....

...from this lil ol' T-Girl/Trans or whatever you fancy calling me here.

For some, I gather, they have this whole thing about wearing ladies underwear and masturbating. For underwear, please insert (now, don't be naughty!) any form of fetish on clothing/footwear. Fine. Whatever. It's what you enjoy, then go for it. Not for me though, sweetie.

For others it's all about being subservient to other males - the so-called beta male - and to strong females. Again, nice but that doesn't do it for me either.

For some it's all 'bout the makeup and the hair, and whilst that is true to a degree - one does have to pass, right? - I don't think it makes up the big picture.

Then there's sex. The perception is, from people that I have chatted to, that T-Gurls are all randy degenerates. Could be true, I dunno. Could be just the stereotype.

My thoughts have always been much more deeper. Indeed, feeling a little lost/out of place/anxious (delete as appropriate) of being the male self. Just having no peace of mind; of worry and confusion. Then, finally, putting some of the pieces together to find the path (the quest?!?) to find what makes me happy. Femininity is more, I think, about a state of mind - I'd say 50% - and less with the outside, peripheral stuff.

Sure, hormones, electrolysis, makeup, clothing, deportment lessons, speech lessons, hair dye all have their part to play but I feel it's about that inner calm, that confidence in oneself (that might be a tad fragile at times) that makes the individual a female and feminine.

Sex? Fine, but it's not the reason that I put on my face and clothing and go to work as a woman, y'know? It has to be something more. Something substantial.

So, my thoughts. Your thoughts?

😘

Cass x
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Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
My friend in the Philippines switched at age fifteen. Won a beauty pageant a few years later then did sex work in Singapore and other spots with a friend but made the mistake of doing silicone oil injections in the breasts and thighs. Ended up getting a uniboob. Then tissue damage. I covered surgery two weeks ago to have it lyposuctioned out. The doctor said it would have killed her. The hormones she quit about six years ago after her TS friends started dying from heart failure. For her it resulted in severe varicose veins which she's having surgery for on Tuesday. It prevents her from standing very long so she can't work. She's a chef and also does hair styling on the side. For her the choice wasn't sex but it was how she identified and it would allow her to support her mom and sisters as there is no decent paying work in the Philippines unless you have special certificates which are quite expensive. BTW - Sarah says Hi!

Picture of my friend with her neice.
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
@Tastyfrzz Awwww, sweetie! That's lovely of you to support her. Yes, I guess that I personally am blessed with living in the West and having, somewhat, more tolerant conditions/people around - family, friends etc.

I work in IT, am pretty visible at work and nobody really questions or has issues with my gender identity in my workplace. At least, that's to my face. Behind it? That I can't control - Obvs! - so I don't let it worry me.

She's very pretty..

😘