🌹2026 IM CHOOSING ME🌹

I’m walking into 2026 with clarity, not excuses.
I’ve learned that staying silent doesn’t make you strong , choosing yourself does.
This year is about truth over comfort, peace over chaos, and freedom over fear.
No more shrinking. No more explaining. No more surviving what keeps breaking me.
I don’t know everything this year will bring, but I know this: I am done sacrificing myself to keep others comfortable.
2026 is my year of boundaries, healing, and quiet strength.
A year of becoming whole again.
If you’re starting this year tired but still standing, choose yourself.
That choice changes everything.

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

This is exactly what I need. Great post. I've been making myself small everyday for everyone, and I feel I have NO SELF. How is one supposed to live without a SELF???? TO STAND IN MY TRUTH too? I agree, Lady, no more shrinking!! I found this woman on FB and YouTube, called Memaw Talks. She makes advice videos and they talk about similar issues you posted here. I learned more from a few of her videos than I did a year in therapy!! 🪻

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LadyGrace ·

@Coralmist Now you got it! 🙏 🙌 Narcissists are good at making one feel that way. They program their victims. You're making great progress. Keep it up. You have EVERY RIGHT to be free and not infringed upon. Only a person like the narcissist, who has an extreme alter ego, thinks they have the right to control others, thinks like that.

LadyGrace ·

@Coralmist
Maybe this one will help you as well. You know sometimes it really does take a person who can look at the situation from the outside in, to help others. While you're in a mess, it's hard to be objective and see things for how they truly are.

https://similarworlds.com/struggles/5482521-From-Victim-to-Victor-Break-Free-from-Abuse-and-Live-the

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@LadyGrace This was very eye opening. Thanks my friend. I think that's a huge part, that the narcissist wants CONTROL of you, and you absolutely become brainwashed. They twist your words, reality etc so that you believe you are defective. Yet THEY are the manipulator, enjoying every second of power they can unleash. It's why I'm quiet and make myself small .. thanks again for your insight 🐞

subhubby · 56-60, M

That is very healthy and I believe mothers and wives should put theirselves first especially after years of raising them. Healthy boundaries are very good.

My wife does similarly and I try to show my devotion and desire to please her daily. Thanks for sharing…

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LadyGrace ·

@uncalled4 We definitely are not called to be people pleasers.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@LadyGrace Nope. Sounds hellish to me. And some are never satisfied.

LadyGrace ·

@uncalled4 Exactly.

LadyGrace ·

Yes!!! It's odd that you said that, because I just wrote an article about that very thing, this afternoon. Congratulations! You have found the victory and it will serve you well.

https://similarworlds.com/struggles/5482305-Building-and-Cultivating-True-Happiness-from-Within

OzDiver · 61-69, M

Wonderful, inspiring post.
My sincere best wishes to you for every possible success.

constance · 70-79

Good advice. All the best.

G7J2O · M

Wonderful. Good luck!

Wiseacre · F

I’ve always chosen myself, but it didn’t win me any popularity contest.

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