Another Mother's Day approaching

For those who do not have a kind, loving or even accepting mother..it can be a day some dread. You feel an obligation to get them *something* but there comes a time when if you had a awful, cruel or despicable mother, you just don't WANT to get any gift anymore.

There's only so much one can take from a so called parent or Mom. I get sad seeing all the fun commercials of people going out to brunch or fun things with their mom, all the flowers, gifts.
One year I got her a beautiful bouquet of flowers on Mother's Day. She took them and looked disgusted. Threw them down and said, "I don't do flowers."
Sure, ok no problem. You're welcome for trying to get something nice. Another year this weekend of feeling sad, yet obligation that I want to shut down. 😟

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Mamapolo2016 · F

I cherish my role as a mother, but I do not believe bearing a child is an automatic magic talisman that bestows eternal honor and respect and love. A terrible mother who was neglectful or damaging has not earned that. I don’t think the child now grown is obligated to ‘return’ what they didn’t receive.

Do what you want to, but in my mind it is in no way a responsibility.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Mamapolo2016 Thanks Mama. I started realizing that just because someone is a parent does not give them the right to torment their kid, and continue it until their adulthood too. And then expect GRATITUDE and respect 😮 It's just not going to work that way anymore. I liked something comedian George Carlin said once.."Parents also need to earn the respect of their children". Rarely does anyone say that. And it's VERY TRUE.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Baybreeze It is absolutely true.