The holidays

I am not particularly excited about the holidays this year. Everyone seems detached and doing their own thing. I am however grateful for my 9 year old to keep the spirit. Feels like one of those moments in time when a huge shift is needed.

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WillaKissing · 56-60, M

Oh, my God keep and cherish this time Luv. I had a son and daughter from my marriage, and post-divorce I raised them on my own from ages 12 to 18. My son followed my career path and joined the Army, and his service led to his suicide on 10-21-2019 at the age of 21. It nearly destroyed me after 27 years of service myself, and serious PSTD from my service. PTSD counseling saved my life post my sons passing.

So, Hold onto your son and these memories and blessings as if they were the most precious things in the world, because they are! God Bless you and your son and may he always be safe!

WhereGraceBegins · 51-55, F

@WillaKissing I cannot thank you enough for sharing this and I am so very sorry for your unimaginable loss. I cannot imagine your pain ♥️ My oldest two are 18 and while they are still home, they are quite removed. I think this is why I am feeling melancholy. They are my heart and have been my entire life so I think I am finding it very hard to see them grow up and become independent.

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

@WhereGraceBegins Thank you, and I pray you never know the loss of your children.

When my daughter left home, and I became an empty nester my last child. That was the worst two years adjusting to my children (My life as you said) period I had ever experienced outside of my sons passing. It is so difficult to connect with them as they grow wings and begin to hit their independency, but as they mature, they do return back to you and then you build a true love, appreciation, and respect relationship because they have grown and experienced what you have been trying to protect them from their entire juvenile lives. Thier is a silver lining as they say.

WhereGraceBegins · 51-55, F

@WillaKissing thank you, that certainly brings me comfort. I know I have to let them experience life for themselves but no one prepares you for the letting-go part. My hopes are that they hold on to everything.

Not something I share with many but I have experienced the loss, just before birth 😢

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WhereGraceBegins · 51-55, F

@WillaKissing thank you so so much for your kind words this morning. Please know you have truly made a difference in my day. Gob bless you for your beautiful heart ♥️

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

@WhereGraceBegins And your questions and replies to me have lifted my day as well! Thank you posting real life excellent questions.

And God Bless you too!♥️