i dont understand people with children

i never understood people that has kids that still want a life . i mean there is nothing wrong with people that want to go out every now and then ,but be responsible and make time and plan things before just leaving your kids with someone just because you think they don't have nothing to do.

i made a statement the other day about if i had kids that i wouldn't want them out of my sight and that my own family even close friends wont be having , holding ,or keeping my child especially out of my sight .I also think people will mistreat my child the way they treat me . i am constantly hearing thing like " children are just like their parents". i understand that but it it also different from having to care for someone else's child that you do not know about.

maybe im just different but when i do decide to have a child i will be financially stable and be prepared for one . once i have a child play time is over .my children will come first and party time with people who dont care about you days will be no more .i will have my kids everywhere with me if not i will be paying a professional to care for my kids not someone who is not doing nothing with their life and are miserable.

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Venturist

My wife brings our daughter everywhere we go.

She refuses to let anyone have her. So theres that.

Graylight · 51-55, F

@Venturist We were Gen X. Some of us saw our parents once a day. We lived.

Somewhere in the middle, you have to strike a bargain with 'takes a village' and 'my responsibility.' That middle ground isn't the same for everyone.

Venturist

@Graylight agreed. I wish times were like they used to be in terms of family culture

Dabelletree909 · 26-30

@Venturist right . i just want to raise my children in a safe and not an crazy environment . i already have people telling me that they will be telling my kids that i am crazy and stuff. i just want my kids close to me so they can be prepared to handle certain type of people for their own health.

Graylight · 51-55, F

@Dabelletree909 I hear you, but keep in mind: Just like kids who are exposed to bacteria grow up with sturdier immunity, children don't learn to socialize, interact and look with a critical eye at others by being kept separate from them.

Dabelletree909 · 26-30

@Graylight interesting .

Dabelletree909 · 26-30

@Graylight @Graylight i will be acting like those around me and putting them on test to see if they catch on . i would rather not have them around i promise you . i really want to get my who life on video camera and show the world because its a whole lot left out on my profile that regular communication you still wont understand . i have a friend and she has been around and even stayed over since i was younger and she doesn't understand so i can imagine some of you all point of view because your looking from an outside view which is understandable .

Graylight · 51-55, F

@Dabelletree909 Look up the phrase "terminal uniqueness."

Dabelletree909 · 26-30

@Graylight i look it up and yes i understand that they all have that except for me lol.i believe people take me as a joke and for the longest i listen to people stories and always kept there secrets and what not and i cant even get that back in return even the smallest things . thats funny

Dabelletree909 · 26-30

@Graylight also the examples of terminal uniqueness examples hit it right on the head .That is all i have been around all my life and its getting tiresome .