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Just a sad day

Earlier today we found out that the cancer my dad was diagnosed last week with, Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma, is the aggressive form. We will learn the stage tomorrow but they know it's advanced, because all his lymph nodes in his body were enlarged. They said he can either do chemotherapy every month, outpatient, or not treat it..That alarmed me. Just not treat it???

I guess their idea is that Bec his immune system is so low being already a stroke victim and MS patient, the chemotherapy can cause many adverse side effects that will make him worse. But I'm going in to visit tomorrow and really push for him to get treatment. He's already said weeks ago when he was starting to feel ill," just let God's will take over"..I know he could very well just say, let's not do chemo.
I've been sad all day because while we we were not close, he was very selfish and watched me suffer so much under abuse, he is still my dad , and I had more positive times with him than i ever did my "mom". The social worker was already discussing palliative care.
It's a lot to take in..😟
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Elisbch · M
I'm so sorry 😞 It is a lot to take in. Overwhelming imho.
I hope you can find some answers and peace. 🫂
I can say I think I may have had the same kind of relationship and feelings about my dad.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Elisbch Thanks I appreciate that🌼 It's sad to me that my dad didn't care about my well being for many, many years. But otoh, at least I could talk to him in a normal conversation , whereas I could NEVER talk to my mother. He could laugh or joke. And we enjoyed watching Dexter together, and a couple other shows. I get very sad that he's only 71, and that it wasn't caught sooner. If he had done blood work or a physical it might have been more treatable a year ago. But he didn't have any symptoms . Perhaps it wasn't even there a year ago. It is aggressive, and some types are fast forming.
It's just all very sad. Thank you again, and I'm sorry you had the same relationship.