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Just a sad day

Earlier today we found out that the cancer my dad was diagnosed last week with, Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma, is the aggressive form. We will learn the stage tomorrow but they know it's advanced, because all his lymph nodes in his body were enlarged. They said he can either do chemotherapy every month, outpatient, or not treat it..That alarmed me. Just not treat it???

I guess their idea is that Bec his immune system is so low being already a stroke victim and MS patient, the chemotherapy can cause many adverse side effects that will make him worse. But I'm going in to visit tomorrow and really push for him to get treatment. He's already said weeks ago when he was starting to feel ill," just let God's will take over"..I know he could very well just say, let's not do chemo.
I've been sad all day because while we we were not close, he was very selfish and watched me suffer so much under abuse, he is still my dad , and I had more positive times with him than i ever did my "mom". The social worker was already discussing palliative care.
It's a lot to take in..😟
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Phaethon · M
I am so sorry to hear that. Sometimes its better to not treat it because it gives you more time with them, when the cancer is too bad or they have a compromised immune system the treatment is too much. My uncle was on dialysis and he started chemo and we could have had months with him but it reduced his time to a few weeks at best. My father was killed in an accident recently, he was in a lot of pain and they were worried it might be cancer, when people hear he died in an accident they are suddenly so sorry but the universe works in mysterious ways. Now when I talk to him at his grave I tell the old fart that I almost envy him for taking the quick and easy way out. Life is strange. I'll keep you and your father in my prayers.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Phaethon It was hard to wrap my head around no treatment, but I guess if it's so advanced it won't really be helpful , and will just aggravate their whole body. I'm sorry to hear of your dad's passing. I'm sure he's happy to see you visit his gravestone🌺