A girl I was seeing who was making me feel absolutely worthless was hiding a BPD diagnosis. Eh =/

@Matt85 It is, yeah. It's interesting. I'm actually an educational psychologist with a lot of specialisation in those kind of conditions. I noticed at first that she was making me feel the exact same awful way a previous BPD partner did. She split last night. And then I started putting her behaviours against all the psychological literature and thought "holy shit". She had me in this push pull dynamic where i wasnt close enough for her issues to show, but close enough that I could be her therapist or whatever else she wanted. Training me to be at her beck and call by triangulating me against these alleged horrible exs who were yet apparently good enough whilst keeping me at a distance with me stuck trying to prove myself by doing what she wants. I'll have to stop, this is literally my job and education and I'll go on for hours on how it all works. Lovebombing, mirroring, unloading trauma right at the beginning to create a false sense of emotional attachment, mention of ex's to triangulate. She had the full works.

BUT

I dodged a bullet, she'd have strung me along on this idea we would meet for as long as she could, to get a free therapist. Damn.