im so lame 😩 im meeting someone on saturday and i have to tell him he cant kiss me

i get real anxious about stds and stis. no smooches till everyone gets tested im sooo sorry 😭 the last time i went on a date the guy walked me to my car and i leaned soooo far back away from him but he still kissed me 🙅‍♀ the last 3 people to kiss me i didn't want kisses from

but also he's only in state for a book convention and i dont want a ldr at all which he already knows

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CountScrofula · 41-45, M

It's very fair for you to set and communicate your boundaries.

At the same time you should arm yourself with knowledge on the transmission risk for serious infections through kissing because everything I know is that its fairly low-risk behaviour if there's no obvious illness like a cold sore. This is more for your own anxiety than anything.

Frostcloud · F

@CountScrofula it is a low risk. but i sometimes chew my cheeks so i get myself more worked up about it because it's usually a blood thing. which i dont bleed but broken skin is broken skin. i get extra anxious about it because my first bfs dad had aids (fortunately it was not passed to his children) and he got a cold once and i could hear him almost dying in the bathroom we shared a wall with... it's not something i ever want to experience or, worse, unknowingly pass to someone else. whether its herpes or hiv.. id rather be overly cautious

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

@Frostcloud You came by that anxiety honestly, I totally get it. Be up front with your boy and he should understand too.