Did anyone else have a terrible experience with therapy?

I get so fed up with all the people recommending therapy or meditation. I've only ever had either a neutral or negative experience with traditional talk therapy. And meditation makes me more anxious. I would just like some alternative suggestions. I personally had a good experience with acupuncture, rolfing, and massage. I would like to try reiki to see what that's about. I'm also curious about EDMR.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Mediation is distraction. And not in a bad sense. When you truly get involved with anything you are distracting yourself from everything else.

It also why there a "zen" for anything. For instance the zen of motorcycle riding. It's a total focus on your riding.

When you have learned to focus on just one thing and only that one thing that is a meditation state.

Your problem isn't likely the lack of ability of meditating. It's likely you don't have an interest that you are willing to totally focus on.

It's that focus on something you find interesting that is a meditation. Not the other way around.

Your ideal interest only you can determine. And when and if you do the meditation part will come automatically. No anxiety will happen because your focus is totally on that interest.

blindbob · 41-45

@DeWayfarer I think I get what you're saying. I could zone out playing the piano, writing, drawing, doing sprints. But you know the problem is always there when you finish.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@blindbob yet the depth of the focus is very important. The deeper you focus the less the other problems become. In fact you can focus so hard that time passing is unnoticed.