I "Got The Belt" When I Was A Teenager
I still get the belt at 16 very often, like weekly. The worst is that none my friends get it so I feel a bit alone to have so strict parents.
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MikeSp · 56-60, M
Erik, I've read with interest the posts you and Lawrence have made. I know and have known quite a few young people that have been punished in similar ways that are older than you two. Just speaking from my own experiences, there must be something bad in the water in your area. Here in my area of rural Florida, it only took one or two spankings/whippings to correct our behavior per issue. For instance, if we busted a curfew without a good excuse, we took the punishment and never busted curfew again.
You guys seem to repeat the same behaviors over and over, so its no wonder your parents are continuing to punish you. Let me share some advice I have given to young people here that has worked for them. Consciously make a concerted effort to alter your behavior and avoid those things that upset your parents. If you are told to do something, do it immediately and do not delay. Your parents expect you to do it now, and they may have a reason for needing it done now. Acting more promptly will please them, and it will serve to alter their opinion of you and how much punishment you deserve.
As to your potty mouth, the 10 second delay you wished for would help greatly. Studies show that people your age have less control over impulsivity than you will later in life. So make a concerted effort to delay any verbal reaction you may want to make to those situations where you feel offended, or threatened, or surprised. Just bite your tongue and control your anger. Take deep breaths. Then shock those around you with a more reasoned and mature response than they are used to. Or no response at all. It is no weakness to just walk away from others who are trying to goad you into misbehaving. If you react badly, you are letting them control you. Just give them the silent treatment. Then your parents cannot punish you for cussing.
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You guys seem to repeat the same behaviors over and over, so its no wonder your parents are continuing to punish you. Let me share some advice I have given to young people here that has worked for them. Consciously make a concerted effort to alter your behavior and avoid those things that upset your parents. If you are told to do something, do it immediately and do not delay. Your parents expect you to do it now, and they may have a reason for needing it done now. Acting more promptly will please them, and it will serve to alter their opinion of you and how much punishment you deserve.
As to your potty mouth, the 10 second delay you wished for would help greatly. Studies show that people your age have less control over impulsivity than you will later in life. So make a concerted effort to delay any verbal reaction you may want to make to those situations where you feel offended, or threatened, or surprised. Just bite your tongue and control your anger. Take deep breaths. Then shock those around you with a more reasoned and mature response than they are used to. Or no response at all. It is no weakness to just walk away from others who are trying to goad you into misbehaving. If you react badly, you are letting them control you. Just give them the silent treatment. Then your parents cannot punish you for cussing.
Friend me if you like, and lets PM later.